How To Stop Being Horny And Sexually Frustrated

How To Stop Being Horny & Sexually Frustrated – Men’s Complete Guide

How to stop being horny. 

You’re here because you are sexually frustrated. You don’t get as much sex as you would like. 

Trust me. Trust me. I get it. 

I’ve been there. 

I used to sit up awake at night, lonely, horny, and depressed in the living room… while my then-wife slept in the bedroom. 

I wanted so desperately to be touched sexually. It almost hurt how badly I wanted it. 

I found myself searching the internet for things like sexually frustrated husband, how to stop being horny, sexually deprived, dead-bedroom, etc. 

The truth is that I was looking for help

The real truth was that I didn’t actually want to figure out how to stop being horny. 

What I actually wanted was to figure out how to fix my broken sex life, so that I could have the kind of intimacy I truly wanted in life. 

I wanted to enjoy sex, intimacy, and my healthy sexual appetite. 

But alas… I was in a relationship with someone who didn’t seem to feel the same way. 

As it turns out, I made this process a lot more difficult than it needed to be. I’ll save you some time and show you how I did it. 

Fast Forward 8 Years…

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8 years later, my life is completely different.

My wife and I broke up right as I was entering my 30s. 

We got divorced about a year later. 

It was during this process that I started to change my life. I now call this the alpha journey. You can read this post to get a better understanding of how I transformed my life through this process. 

This is important because it actually worked. 

A few days ago, I paid a visit to a woman (a woman with whom I share a friends-with-benefits sort of relationship), and we had some fantastic sex. Another woman, a friend who I also have a sexual relationship with, texted me and asked me how my day was. 

She also expressed a desire to see each other again soon.

“We need to get together soon,” she said to me over text. “I want you. I need to be touched.” 

When I got home later that evening, my girlfriend and I had incredible sex, with plenty of cuddling, touching, caressing, and just being together. 

At this point in my life, I never go without the sex and intimacy that I desire. 

But it didn’t all happen overnight. 

I needed to learn how to be the attractive, desirable man women actually wanted. 

Then, I needed to be willing to do the work it takes to BECOME that powerful, high-status, masculine, alpha-mentality man. 

I Used To Think That I Was Just Undesirable… 

I used to think that I was undesirable

I used to say that “I was just unlovable,” or that I was just “ugly.” … and that was why I was so sexually frustrated. 

In my mind, it wasn’t my fault. I was doing what I was supposed to be doing, right? 

I got married and committed to my wife, right? Shouldn’t that make her want me?

But I came to a painful realization.

None of these things were true. 

The truth was that I stopped working on myself as soon as I got married. I stopped leveling-up to become the powerful, masculine man I had the potential to become. 

It happens all the time. I see it happen every day… and I see men get their hearts broken over it.  

The truth is that my lovability and desirability had nothing to do with my body. 

It had everything to do with my state of mind

You see, the reason for why my sex life was so out of whack was because I didn’t understand women. 

I also didn’t understand myself, or how men and women are supposed to work together in relationships. 

And most importantly…

I didn’t understand how to hold a strong, masculine frame in my life. 

All I knew was that I was 25 years old, I was sexually frustrated, I was miserable, and I didn’t know how to fix it

I felt invisible.

I felt like I just wanted my wife to desire me and love me. 

I wanted to believe that she owed me this… because I wanted this to be her fault. 

But the truth was that I wasn’t being the alpha male that women (including my wife) actually desire. 

What Is An Alpha Male, And Why Does It Matter To This Conversation?

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A lot of people have misconceptions about what an ‘alpha male’ is. For a very thorough guide on exactly what an alpha male is, check out this post

Here’s the truth of the matter. 

I wanted to learn how to stop being horny because I wasn’t sexually satisfied. 

The reason for why I wasn’t sexually satisfied was because I wasn’t having enough high-quality sex in my life. 

I wasn’t having enough quality sex in my life because I wasn’t a high-value man that women would desire. 

So, at the root of it all, this was the problem I needed to solve: 

I needed to figure out how to become a high value man. 

How To Become A High Value, Alpha-Mentality, Masculine Man – The Type Of Man Women Crave

This is easier said than done. 

But here are the 5 steps that I would encourage you to take in your life if you’re stuck in a place of sexual frustration

Googling how to stop being horny because you can’t stand to go without the sex life you actually want for yourself isn’t the answer. 

Here’s the truth, men. Our sexual success is invariably linked with how effective we are in the world. 

And I’m about to give you 5 steps that you can start taking today to conquer your sexual frustration, to the point where women will actually desire and crave to sleep with you instead of leaving you high and dry. 

It’s not going to happen overnight. But if you stick with it, you can fix this. 

I went from having barely any sex at all (and even that sex was passionless, without real intimacy)… to living literally a life that most men only dream about while whacking off to porn. 

I’m not trying to brag. I’m trying to say that when you do the work, you create the results. 

Alright. Here are the 5 steps you need to start taking today

Step 1: Understand That This Is YOUR Fault

I know it sounds rough, but hear me out. 

If you aren’t the type of man women crave to sleep with, it’s your fault

It’s your fault for not being effective, attractive, or high-value enough. 

But the good news is that you can turn it around. 

I want you to look in the mirror, and say this to yourself. 

“It’s my fault that I’m so sexually frustrated, because up until now, I didn’t understand what to do to be a truly attractive man. But today, I vow to start changing it. I believe that I can, and I will.” 

Once you can say this to yourself in the mirror, and mean it, you’re ready to go on to step two. 

Step 2: Instead Of Trying To Figure Out How To Stop Being Horny, Determine To Figure Out How To Have The Kinds Of Sex You WANT To Be Having

Believe it or not, you can have exactly the kind of sex you want to be having… as long as you’re willing to do the work required to level-up and become a high-value, desirable, sexy, alpha man. 

So, to figure out what this is, I want you to go to this blog post, and start reading these books. It doesn’t really matter which one you start with… but I want you to start reading these books, and not to stop until you’ve read all of them. 

There are 20 books on that list. If you read one of them per month, you can have it done in less than two years. 

Do it. 

I promise that this knowledge will change your life. 

Every single book on that list is important if you want to be a high value, attractive alpha-mentality man. 

Got it? Got it! 

Now go do it, and move on to step 3. 

Step 3: Start Plugging Some Positivity Into Your Ears

You need to stop feeding yourself a bunch of beta bullshit garbage, and start getting some real, alpha-mentality food plugging into your mind. 

A lot of men will sit around with their homies and bullshit about how much of a bitch their wife/girlfriend is… while smoking weed and playing video games. 

I’ve got nothing against chilling with your homies. But if you start complaining like this, and your homes don’t smack you across the head and tell you to change your mindset, you need to get some new homies. 

I want you to check out both of these podcasts. 

First, start listening to my own podcast… the Joshua Sigafus Podcast. It will absolutely help you to get on the path to sexual success. 

I podcast for both alpha minded men and women, but listen to all of it anyway. Even listen to the episodes for women, because the alpha mentality concepts contained within are still universal. 

Next, turn into the Bulldog Mindset podcast. This guy knows his game, and he will seriously help you to level up. 

Start listening to these two podcasts. Listen to at least one episode every day to get a steady diet of powerful, masculine-centric mindset nourishment. 

Now on to step number four…

Step 4: Audit Your Life For Bullshit, And Start Leveling Up To Be A Better Man

There are two steps to this ‘step’ that I would recommend. 

First off, I want you to go to this blog post, bookmark it, and start working your way through all of the steps. 

This might seem like a lot of work. But I want you to keep checking back to it, and going over the steps over and over again. It’s basically a post with 31 ways to become a better man. I wrote it, and it is super helpful

So make sure you read this post at least once a week, and keep it fresh in your mind. 

Secondly, I want you to take a look at The Vow Of Kings And Queens

This is a set of vows that I strive to live by on a daily basis. These were the vows I made to myself when I decided to stop settling for a life that sucked, and wanted to level-up and create a life that was truly awesome. 

I would encourage you to follow these vows at first… though eventually, you will probably create your own alpha code, and I would highly recommend that you do so. 

An alpha code is highly personal, and it must resonate with you on a deeply personal level. Try mine out for a bit. It works. The concepts are correct. Meditate on them on a daily basis. 

I have no doubt that they’ll be transformative in your life in a highly positive way.

Step 5: Join My Membership Tribe

I’m going to be real with you. 

You absolutely have the power to change your life. 

But some men really struggle to do it on their own. 

For this reason, I’ve created a mastermind tribe… a community of alpha-minded men and women who value help, support, guidance, and community as they seek to level-up their lives and create their own destiny in the world. 

So check it out here. I highly suggest that you join. If you do, I’ll see you on the other side… and your results will come much faster, because you’ll get individualized help to overcome your problems and challenges.  

In Conclusion: How To Stop Being Horny And Sexually Frustrated

If you truly want to stop being horny and sexually frustrated, you need to transform yourself into the alpha male that women actually crave. 

It isn’t rocket science. It’s actually attraction science. 

Get started on these five steps, and start changing your life today. 

Go with grace, my friends, and never give up your power. 

This is Joshua K. Sigafus, singing off. 

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