It’s time to begin your alpha journey.
Greetings ladies and gentlemen. Well met!
My name is Joshua K. Sigafus. I’m a dating coach, freelance writer, blogger, YouTuber, podcaster, and author.
And my goal is simple.
I’m here to help you create the dating life of your dreams.
I coach men and women who are tired of dating problems, and help them fix their dating lives from the ground up using simple concepts and techniques that anyone can employ.
I’m going to give you the bullet-points version of who I am, and why I do what I do.
But first, a disclaimer.
Trust me when I say that I’m just a normal guy. I wasn’t born with rockstar good looks, and I learned how to succeed at dating with virtually zero wealth, status, or power.
So I know that it can be done.
And I can also teach you how to do it as well.
But to understand why I know what I know, you need to understand at least the basics of my story.
My tale is a fairly common one.
As a teenager, I struggled to understand how to date, how to have relationships, or why women did and said the things they did and said.
Truth be told, women were a total mystery to me.
I loved women. More than anything, I wanted to get married and have a family.
But I really struggled with dating.
I was a hopeless romantic ‘nice guy’ who always seemed to get dumped for the ‘bad boys.’
Well, eventually, I met a girl who didn’t seem to want to dump me for the ‘bad boys,’ (at least not yet… but we’re getting there).
And we got married.
Life was good, for about 10 years.
I started a freelance writing business, we had two kids—we had two cats, a couple cars, a nice garage, a riding lawnmower, great friends.
I thought everything was going as it should.
But eventually, our relationship started winding down.
We had our fair share of troubles, and ended up getting divorced.
This changed the entire destiny of my life. Everything I knew and thought I could rely on came to an end.
I moved out of our family home with $600 to my name and two carloads of belongings, and started the next chapter of my life as a newly single divorced father.
Moving into that little one-bedroom apartment to start my life over again was one of the hardest things I have ever had to do. I was really depressed, and it took me about 6 months of isolation just to get back into the habit of even trying to spend time around other people again.
I thought that dating would be easy now. Surely, after being married for 10+ years, I understood women, right?
As it turned out, I was more lost than ever.
I started studying pickup artists, evolutionary psychologists, relationship experts—pretty much anyone I found who knew more than I did about human mating behavior, and what made both men and women ‘tick’ in the attraction/desire department.
Not only did I learn a lot about women, I also learned a lot about men. I even learned a lot about myself, and about how my own trauma in life had led me to a place where I was living with a perpetual victim mentality.
In other words, I learned what was wrong, and I started applying solutions to my life to fix it.
This process took a couple of years. But after trying, failing, analyzing, adapting, learning, and never giving up, I started to figure it out.
Soon, I started to see major improvements in my dating experiences.
Before long, I felt like I had cracked the code. I felt like I could pretty much write my own check in terms of my dating life.
I finally knew how to create whatever kind of dating life I wanted for myself.
I succeeded. I had learned to create the dating life of my dreams, and this completely revolutionized my life.
Fast forward a little while.
My life was moving along quite well.
I had a new girlfriend, my business was growing—life was good!
But it wasn’t long before I started getting questions from other people.
I started JoshuaSigafus.com, and started blogging about dating in October of 2019.
You can still read my first blog post here (though it’s gone through a few revisions since I first published it).
I started publishing YouTube videos in December of 2019. You can watch the first video I published here. I definitely wasn’t a pro, as you can tell pretty easily by watching it.
But, I had passion, and I believed that I could help people. And that’s all that mattered.
I started podcasting in April of 2020. You can listen to my first podcast episode here. Those early episodes were definitely rough. I was still trying to find my voice, and I still wasn’t sure what I was doing.
All I knew was that I wanted to help people learn what I had learned—how to create the dating life of their dreams.
I just loved dating, and loved talking about it.
And before long, people started messaging me for more specific advice.
And that’s how my dating coach business was formed.
My business is still growing by leaps and bounds every month, and I’m incredibly excited for what the future holds.
At the end of the day, my goal is simple.
I went through a really hard time, and had to learn basically everything I know about dating from scratch. I had to dig through research, try things out, figure out who was telling the truth (and who the fake dating gurus were), and figure out how to apply it all to my life in a way that actually worked and made sense.
And now that I’ve figured it out, I want to help other people do the same.
Usually, with just a couple of coaching calls, I can help people to understand more about their dating problems than I learned in two entire years!
That’s what I have to offer. I know what I’m doing, and I know how to distill it down so that normal people (like me) can understand the concepts, apply simple techniques to their life, and start creating the dating life that they truly want for themselves.
And that’s where I’ll leave it for now.
As I always say, life is too short for a dating life that sucks.
In the meantime, go with grace my friends. And never give up your power.
Thank you for stopping by the site. I hope that my content brings you value and makes your life better.
Until next time…
Joshua K. Sigafus