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Greetings, and welcome to my online domain.
My name is Joshua K. Sigafus. I’m a dating coach, writer, YouTuber, podcaster, master student of the female mate selection process—and all-around avid pursuant of the process of helping men to master their own evolutionary masculinity and live lives of intention, purpose, value, and success.
In other words—my goal is to help men create amazing dating lives (while also empowering them to become better, stronger, higher-value men in the process).
I’d like to say that my story started out with me being ‘awesome’ at this whole dating thing.
But it didn’t.
Today, my dating life is truly amazing. I’ve literally succeeded in creating the dating life of my dreams through my own proven dating system.
But my story really begins in adolescence.
As long as I can remember, I’d always been ‘in love’ with the idea of love.
Even as a young boy, I remember always dreaming of having the ‘perfect family.’
I wanted to get married to a wife who loved me and desired me. I wanted to treat her well, love her, be loved by her, and live the perfect Hollywood romance story.
Then… real life hit. And I quickly realized that life wasn’t that simple.
In high school, I got good grades and tended to excel at most things naturally—but I learned very quickly that I sucked at dating.
The other boys around me were getting girlfriends, enjoying intimacy, experiencing romance, getting all kinds of female attention, etc.
Then, there was me. I was the lonely ‘nice guy.’ I was the guy that all the girls liked as a friend—never as a boyfriend.
Eventually, I did end up meeting a girl who liked me. And I jumped all in on that relationship and got married at the age of 20.
The only problem was that I never really learned how to date with the proper mindset. I never learned how to create my own masculine value. I never learned to embrace natural, positive, healthy masculinity for myself—and my entire life (including my new marriage) suffered for it.
I was a weak, purposeless, insecure beta-mentality man with a self-destructive victim mindset—and I was completely lost in my own life. I drifted aimlessly from job to job before starting my own freelance writing business in 2009. My wife and I didn’t have a fantastic relationship from the start—and it really only got worse over time.
2 kids later and 10 years into a marriage filled with brokenness, resentment, hurt feelings, and a lack of purpose—we separated and ended up getting divorced.
At the age of 30, I moved out of our home and into a little one-bedroom apartment at the edge of town. I contemplated giving up on life. I was depressed, anxious, financially ruined, emotionally devastated, separated from my children, and hopeless.
But I decided that I wasn’t ready to give up.
I finally woke up to the fact that, somehow, I had to figure out why my life wasn’t working—and vowed to figure out what I needed to do to fix it.
I hit the ‘reset’ button and started figuring it out, one piece at a time.
And dating was one of the areas that I really doubled-down on.
It took me about two and a half years to really sort out the ‘dating’ part of my life problems.
I spent countless hours studying, researching, fact-finding, reading scientific studies, studying pickup artistry, studying the lives of successful men, reading scientific literature about human mating behavior, hormones, brain chemistry—literally anything I could get my hands on that might give me a glimpse into the mysterious world of dating success, and how to make it work for me.
I also formed theories, and tested those theories out on the ‘battlefield’ of my own dating life—learning by trial, error, blood, sweat, tears, lots of rejection, and lots of hard work.
But eventually, I started to experience some success.
I adjusted my methods, figured out what worked and what didn’t, kept working on myself—and eventually, unlocked ‘the key’ to true dating success.
I got so good at dating that, for a while, I was literally scheduling new dates with new women every single day of the week. I even had to dial it back a bit, because I was spending so much time with amazing, beautiful women that I was falling behind on work!
Needless to say, I had managed to figure out the ‘dating’ part of my life problems. And that’s when I decided to start writing, creating content, and coaching other men on how to fix the same problem in their own lives.
Today, I blog, YouTube, and podcast to help men improve their dating lives. I’ve also created a full, in-depth dating course based on the strategies, research, and techniques that actually helped me to revolutionize my own dating life.
I also offer coaching services for men who truly want to revolutionize their own dating lives and create real dating success for themselves.
Thanks for reading, and welcome to the journey!