This is a very, very important topic that really overlaps with a lot of what I talk about on this blog.
Of course, at the heart of the matter, my blog has a very specific mission.
To help men win with women.
And I believe that solving the problem of ‘helping men win with women’ requires an all-encompassing, holistic approach. To put it simply, I believe that men have the greatest chance of truly winning with women when they become true high-value men… and that is exactly what I advocate.
I want men to have healthy, happy, positive relationships with women… and I want women to have good experiences with men as well.
So, that is the focus of my blog.
But recently, my blog has come under a bit of scrutiny… and I’ve been made aware of the fact that there are some readers who feel that my message verges on being misogynistic.
Of course, I completely disagree. I think that what I advocate is not only healthy and good for men… but that if more men understood and put into practice what I believe in and advocate, women would also be much, much happier as well.
Why? Because we would be seeing an influx of true, powerful, high-value men taking back their own power from the chaos around them, taking responsibility for themselves, and chasing excellence.
I think that people misunderstand what it means to be a true gentlemen, and I think that the world is very confused about masculinity in general.
And I truly feel that, in the presence of a true alpha male, women and girls will feel empowerment… not subjugation.
Any man who would try to put women down is not a true alpha male.
Let’s dive into this.
I Was Recently Asked What I Thought About Gender Equality By A Reader – And I Want To Give An Honest Answer
I am very grateful when people ask me to clarify specific things on my blog. I want to talk about the important issues, and I want to do what I can to make the world a better place through my writings.
And so, while I don’t usually get into the topic of gender equality… I do believe it to be a very fair question to ask.
What does Joshua K. Sigafus actually think about gender equality?
So in this post, I’m going to do my very best to answer it.
What Is The Gender Equality Movement? And What Is The Alpha Male Perspective On It?
I’m going to try to make this very, very simple.
I want men and women to both have the freedom and opportunity to pursue the type of life they want to live.
I want both genders to have reproductive rights. I want men and women to have a right to reproductive health, to live lives free of all forms of violence, to escape the obvious malevolent evils of human rights atrocities like female genital mutilation, etc.
I would even make a case to say that circumcision is genital mutilation, and that we should stop performing it on boys.
I want men to live powerful, positive, effective lives. I want them to treat women with kindness and respect. I also want them to have healthy boundaries, and to live their lives intentionally.
This is why I wrote the Oath of Kings, my own personal alpha male code… the code I strive to live my life by.
And to be super honest, I say the exact same for women.
In fact… I wish that more women would follow the alpha path.
I Believe That Helping Men Will Help Our World
Just because my blog is focused on helping men does not mean that my tenants are not also good for women.
My core audience is men who want to win with women. I want to help men who do not know how to engage with women, by helping them learn how to date, engage, and interact with women in a positive, productive, healthy manner.
I want them to get great results, have a great time, and enjoy all positive levels of human intimacy with high-value women.
My idea that men should embrace the alpha male journey is not intended, nor does it lead to, an outcome where men gain power and control over women in order to subjugate them or to impose a lesser status onto them.
If anything, I call for men to maintain stronger boundaries, and to make sure that they are treating women as equals even when such actions don’t necessarily seem to favor women (for example, I would never advise a man to live with a woman who does not pay her half of the bills, etc.)
But I also advocate that men show the same values to women. For example… I would never advocate that a man rely on a woman to pay his bills, to provide him with the emotional support he needs, to make him feel good about himself, etc.
These are things a man (or a woman) should be able to do on their own, under their own power, as self-reliant, responsible adult humans. If they can’t, they have issues that they need to work on… and they need to take responsibility for themselves and work on those things so that they can be successful in those areas.
I Really Hope That All Humans Can find The Happiness They Seek In Life… Regardless Of Their Gender
I am 10000% for the empowerment of women. I believe in equal rights, and that this concept is fundamental to the concept of human rights in general.
When it comes to gender equality and women, I 10000% believe that women and girls deserve just as much liberty, freedom, opportunity, kindness, respect, and good grace as men do.
And I think that anyone with any sense would agree with me.
If I Would Change Anything About Our World, It Would Be Men
I do believe in gender equality. But the majority of my work really focuses on human mating behavior, and how we can use the science of mating behavior to learn how men and women can interact and navigate relationships so that they can both find empowerment, fulfillment, happiness, positivity, health, and wellness.
With all of that being said… I actually don’t have much of a problem with how women tend to live these days.
And if a man for some reason doesn’t agree with how a woman wants to live… no problem! I would tell him to kindly and respectfully disengage from her and just walk away. Find a different partner who is more compatible with you!
For the most part, I have no complaints about how women live in our society.
The vast majority of women I know could stand to embrace a bit more rationality, and learn to overcome the finnicky nature of human emotion as they live their day to day lives.
I also wish that more women could find a way to defeat their anxiety, as that seems to be a pretty serious issue for women right now.
(Want some tips for dating someone with anxiety? Check out this post.)
I think that learning to do this would help them to escape some of the chaos they sometimes find themselves surrounded by.
But… I think that men actually need this as well. In fact, men probably need to learn it even more than women.
I Want To See Men Win… But That DOES NOT Mean That I Want Women To Lose
Yes, I want to see men win. But in my version of winning, men winning doesn’t mean that women are losing.
I do not see life as a contest between men and women. I think that men and women should see each other as high-value additions to one-another’s already awesome, happy lives.
I know for a fact that so many men love women. They want to date, flirt, have relationships, have sex, and do all kinds of awesome, fun things together. And they want women to want that too.
They want to know how to do it the right way… and my heart goes out to them, because so many men have never been given a chance to hear the truth about what women are really looking for, what works, how they can level-up their lives, what they should be focusing on, etc.
So my goal is to help men figure out how to make this happen.
If men win at this, everyone wins… because women will also have a much better experience.
What Does Gender Equality Mean To Men On The True Alpha Male Journey?
There is obviously a lot that we could talk about here… but I am going to try to summarize my role in this discussion, and what I believe in… very plainly and simply.
- I believe that men and women are more alike than they are different
- My blog just so happens to be in the dating niche, and that means that the primary focus of my work is on the wonderful, incredible, fascinating differences that do exist between genders
- My work does not exist to complain that women have too much power, or that I do not want women to have more power. I actually want more men and women to take more direct control over their lives, and to be more self-motivated to pursue the kind of life and success they really want
- My work is designed to help men understand the best, healthiest, most logical, most scientifically proven ways to win with women when it comes to dating, relationships, and sex
- My entire platform is based on the principle that the true alpha male path is the path by which men become high-value, effective, excellent, strong leaders who can build up and support their own loved ones and tribe… to become effective pillars of their communities through self-mastery and intelligent, educated understanding
- I also believe that if men embrace the true alpha male path, which I have outlined in the 18 vows of the Oath of Kings, they will not only learn to be stronger, better, more capable men… but that the women they interact with will also have a better experience… because they will be dealing with grown up, self-responsible, mature, effective men who understand women, understand healthy relationship dynamics, and who are self-reliant to the point where they can exist by standing on their own two feet, under their own strength, as they build their communities and nurture a healthy ecosystem of mutual respect, kindness, and healthy-boundaries with other humans… both men and women
I totally believe that if men around the world exercised their own human right to take back control of their lives from the chaos around them, and started understanding women and girls and treating them with kindness and respect, that this world would be a much better place.
I Believe In Men. I Believe That Men Can Heal The Damage Our Society Has Suffered
I think that a lot of people are really hurt, traumatized, and lost in our world today.
And I completely and thoroughly believe that the answer to the problem lies in helping men to become better men.
I believe in men. I believe in their strength. And when men set themselves to the task of pursuing excellence and value in their lives, they can do incredible things.
I cannot tell you how my life has been transformed since I began the alpha male journey. My relationships with women are so much healthier. My friendships are better. My sex life is better. My entire life is better.
I have so much more power to live the way I want, to have the kinds of relationships I want, to have the kinds of sex I want… and the women who engage in those things with me also seem to be pretty happy about it.
I believe that the alpha male journey, as I define it, embodies, encompasses, and encourages gender equity, gender equality, and empowerment for women and girls.
Hopefully this post has helped everyone to understand my thoughts on Gender Equality. I also hope that this can put to rest some of the misunderstandings that people have held regarding my work.
At the end of the day, I love women. I love them for how they are similar to me, but even more-so for how they are different. I don’t believe this to be a sexist attitude. I believe it to be a reality-based attitude that enables me to seek the true, healthiest ways for men and women to exist together.
And so far, the results of this in my own life have been overwhelmingly positive.
Go with grace, my friends. And never give up your power.
Until next time…
Joshua K. Sigafus