What is a high value woman?
As I sit down to write this post, I will admit that I have put more than the usual amount of time into deciding what I think about this.
I spend so much of my time talking about how to be a high value man, that I do not often discuss how to define a high-value woman.
So in this post, instead of talking about dating tips or the alpha male journey, I’m going to delve into this very important topic head-first.
What is a high value woman? And how will you know one when you find one?
Let’s talk about that.
Why Does It Matter If A Woman Is High Value?
This is a very good question.
As alpha males, we want to be selective about the types of women we spend time with.
This doesn’t necessarily mean that we need to be needlessly picky. But it does mean that we need to be careful about allowing humans into our inner circle who are not high quality enough to invest in and be trusted.
This goes for both men and women. But, I would maintain that since men and women serve very different natural roles in the grand scheme of the human mating dance, they will tend to sometimes display slightly different qualities.
Of course, some of this is subjective… and depends on what you are looking for.
For example… for some men, they may place a high value on a younger woman, while some men might prefer that their female partners are rational and wise.
You might also value different things for women who occupy different roles in your life.
Maybe you value a certain level of attractiveness in your sexual partners, or have a sexual preference for a certain body-type… while when it comes to friends, you can virtually rule-out attractiveness.
So, keep in mind that each man is going to need to come up with his own list of traits that he values, and he will need to evaluate each woman individually.
Just as men, women are all different… and no two of them are exactly alike.
Alright. With that being said, let’s dive into the first high value trait… Kindness/respect.
First Trait Of A High-Value Woman – Kindness And Respect
Kindness is so underrated in our world. I know a lot of men and women who fail at this… so, when I do meet a kind woman, I always instantly pay attention to her and show her favor.
Life is hard. It is also not always easy to be a woman. Therefore, I feel that women who are high value enough to be kind are some of the strongest, most beautiful people in the world.
And respect is very similar to this. I have put a lot of work into making sure that I show respect to the women in my life… and I certainly appreciate it when this effort is returned.
It is not always easy to be kind and respectful. But both are signs of great strength and value!
Second Trait Of A High-Value Woman – Honesty
I value honesty in women extremely highly. And in my personal opinion, a high value woman will always be honest.
If I catch a woman being dishonest, I will usually stop spending time around her.
How can you trust someone if you don’t even have honesty?
Without trust, you have no basis for any kind of relationship… sexual, friendship, professional, etc.
Third Trait Of A High-Value Woman – Self Responsibility
Women who take responsibility for their own lives are incredibly sexy and attractive to me… and I see this as an invaluable trait.
I am not a big fan of the victim mentality. I do not allow myself to live like a victim… so why should I allow women with a victim mentality to remain in my life?
In short, I don’t!
Women with a victim mentality have about zero chance to have any sort of relationship with me. On the opposite side of the coin, I highly value a woman who takes responsibility for her life, and acts like a responsible, rational adult.
Speaking of rationality…
Fourth Trait Of A High-Value Woman – Rationality
Some men seem to believe that all women are irrational, emotional, and hormone-driven.
But I disagree with this. I have known some very rational women in my life… and they are an absolute pleasure to spend time with.
Any human who can pull themselves out of the chaos of their emotions and behave and think rationally has a very high probability of having a successful relationship with me.
Rational men and women are among some of my favorite humans to spend time with.
Fifth Trait Of A High-Value Woman – Open Mindedness
Whether you are a man or a woman, open-mindedness is something that I value very highly. But I find it especially attractive in women, and I see it as being a hallmark of a lady who is worth keeping around.
At this point in my life, one of the most frustrating things is to try to have a relationship with a closed minded person.
Life is just too short and wild not to be open-minded!
So when I find an open-minded woman to share my life and experiences with, I will tend to want to keep her around!
Sixth Trait Of A High-Value Woman – She Cultivates Good Health
Humans cannot control how ‘naturally beautiful’ they are. But they can control how healthy their body is, at least to a point!
Therefore, it is very attractive to me when I meet a lady who puts a priority on staying healthy, and strives to take care of herself in life.
If a lady works out, eats healthy, and tries to take care of her skin, hair, nails, etc. These are all really big markers of a woman of high value.
She doesn’t need to be an athlete or anything… she just needs to take care of herself!
As a man, I strive to stay in good health. And though I do not do it perfectly, I highly value women who also place a high value on this.
If a woman cares for herself and will keep herself healthy, then she will be that much more prepared to care for other people around her as well
It is an indicator of self-love… which brings us to our next point.
Seventh Trait Of A High-Value Woman – She Loves Herself
What a joy it is to spend time with a woman who has a healthy love for herself, who places her own well-being first, but not at the expense of being kind, rational, or open-minded!
I notice that there is a literal epidemic of women who do not love themselves nowadays. I am not sure why this is.
Maybe too many men have been too unkind. Or maybe our culture doesn’t do a very good job of encouraging women to love themselves.
In any case, I think that it is important for a woman to get, and keep, a healthy her-first attitude, and self-confidence to go with it.
I would love for every woman to be super confident and filled with self-love!
There is something incredibly appealing about a woman who doesn’t need a man to make her love herself… but who, at the same time, can treat men (and other women) with decent kindness and respect at the same time.
Eighth Trait Of A High-Value Woman – She Will Take Control Of Her Own Destiny
If I am thinking of dating a woman, or being in any sort of relationship with her, I always check to see if she is in control of her own destiny.
Women who take charge of their lives, and take their power back away from the chaos around them, are absolutely a pleasure to spend time around… regardless of whether it is a dating relationship for friendship.
I feel so bad for women who feel like they need someone else to take care of them. For some, this may mean staying with an abusive partner.
For some, it may mean staying with abusive parents, or at a job where they are not treated to their desired standards!
But I also have massive respect for women who stand up for themselves, who don’t put up with bullshit, and who are not afraid to go the distance and take the power away from people who treat them badly.
These types of women are a pure pleasure to associate with!
Ninth Trait Of A High Value Woman – She Will Lift Up Other Women
As a man, I do not feel like women owe it to me to lift me up. That is my job, and if I need help with it, I can seek out good friends to help me.
But… I do appreciate it when women lift men up.
But do you know what I appreciate even more? Women who lift OTHER WOMEN up!
It brings me so much joy when I see women sticking together, encouraging each other, and finding solidarity together.
I see far too many women ruin friendships with other women… usually over men who are not worth their time anyway!
I love to see ladies standing together, sticking up for each other, holding each other accountable, and encouraging one-another.
It is awesome to get to know women like this, and I sincerely hope that more men will come to value this and encourage it among the women they know!
Tenth Trait Of A High Value Woman – She Will Always Strive To Better Herself
If you want to know how to be a high value woman, then one tenant that is often overlooked is the idea of bettering yourself.
I see far too many women in the world who stagnate. But, I see that men do this as well!
If I am going to be dating a woman, then she must be focused on improving herself, leveling up her skills, and trying to make her own life better under her own power.
I love to see women starting businesses, creating art, learning, gaining knowledge, earning degrees, making their own money, and accomplishing things in life!
Some men are intimidated by these things. But I find them extremely sexy and attractive!
Eleventh Trait Of A High Value Woman – A Positive Attitude About Sexuality
Just like men in the world with negative attitudes about sexuality hurt women, women with negative attitudes about sex hurt men.
I think that this is so important, to the point where I would never consider dating someone who did not have a healthy, positive attitude about sex and sexuality.
I believe that every person should be allowed to think and act however they want sexually… as long as they are not victimizing someone else.
But I also believe that if we have something keeping us from having a positive, healthy mindset about sex, we need to fix it.
When I was a younger man, I used to have some unhealthy attitudes about sex… and I fixed them.
I did the work, and I figured it out.
I would only consider dating a woman who had also done this inner, positive, healing self-work … so that we could both approach the relationship table on equal ground, and have a mutually beneficial, thriving, happy, pleasurable, productive sex life.
Twelfth Trait Of A High Value Woman – Loyalty
I know far too many women who will drop everything and run as soon as something better offers itself to them.
To a point, I cannot fault women for this. But at the same time, true loyalty is so valuable… and it might be one of the most important and high-value traits you could possibly find in a dating partner.
Of course, if you want loyalty from anyone, you need to earn it. If you want loyalty from a high-value woman, you need to earn it by being a high value man and being loyal to her in return.
If you can find a truly loyal lady to have a relationship with, do not overlook it! Loyalty is a rare and wonderful gift in our world, and it should never be treated lightly.
Thirteenth Trait Of A High Value Woman – She Puts Effort Into Her Appearance
I spend a certain amount of money, and spend a certain amount of time, trying to look presentable each and every day… and it is very appreciated when ladies do the same.
Now, I can hear some complaints about this already…
“But Josh, it isn’t a woman’s responsibility to look good for you!”
Well, I agree! But at the same time, if a woman never puts any effort into looking presentable and attractive, I am simply much less likely to want to invest in her life and spend time with her.
I don’t want women to look good for me necessarily (though that is a very special and appreciated gesture when it occurs).
Rather, just like I would tell any man, look good and put effort into your appearance for yourself, so that you can take pride in yourself and build up your own confidence and self-esteem!
Hopefully this post has helped to convey my thoughts about what exactly constitutes a woman of high value.
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Go with grace, my friends… and never give up your power.
Until next time…
Joshua K. Sigafus