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How Alpha Male Men Text

How Alpha Male Men Text – A 5 Tip Guide For Texting Women

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Learning how alpha male men text took me a little bit of time, trial, and error. 


Because I am, to this day, a recovering people pleaser!

I have always been such a ‘nice guy’ that people used to walk all over me, use me, take advantage of me, etc. 

Both men and women have done this. But to a point, it was my own fault. 

As it turns out, you need some grit in your life and attitude if you want people to respect you. 

We live in a hard world. And if you are too nice, you’re going to get shoved to the bottom of the ladder, and tougher people are going to use you as a stepping stool to hoist themselves up. 

But why am I telling you this?

Well, this was my biggest problem with texting women. I was always too nice about it!

And as a result, women tended to lose interest in me very quickly. 

But when I started the alpha male journey, I realized that you can still be kind, AND command respect

And that is exactly how alpha male men text. 

They understand how to command respect at all times, while still remaining kind and respectful themselves. 

Whether you are flirting, looking for a girlfriend, or trying to hook up with a woman, it is important to understand how to text like an attractive, powerful, desirable alpha male.

Here are 5 tips that all alpha male men should understand about texting women, along with some book recommendations that really helped me when I was first learning how to date successfully.

These are the tips that have helped me the most in my quest to level up, become a high-value man, and increase my attraction with high-value ladies. 

Tip #1 – Stop Using LOLs, Smiley Faces, Winkie Faces, Etc. 

Tip #1 – Stop Using LOLs, Smiley Faces, Winkie Faces, Etc.

There is a lot of debate about this online. 

And I will admit. For a long time, I was on the opposite side of this one. 

I used to be the smiley-face master!

I loved using them because I thought that they made my texts sound, and feel, really friendly. 

Well, I was correct. But I also really noticed that women didn’t respond well to it. 

So, I left the lols, smileys, tongue-sticky-outies, and pretty much every other emoji behind. 

And while I still made sure that my texts sounded respectful and kind, this seemed to work a lot better.

I felt like women just respected me more after I adopted this habit.  

It worked so well for me that I’ve adopted it as my official policy. I use emojis with my guy and girl friends, and with my actual girlfriend only… not with other women I am interested in sleeping with! 

Tip #2 – Never Double Text… Ever

Tip #2 – Never Double Text… Ever (2)

I used to be really bad about this one too. 

If I sent a text and she didn’t respond to it, I might wait a couple of days and send another… just in case! 

But let me break it to you the hard way, gentlemen. 

If she really wanted you… like really truly wanted your dick… she would be all up in your business, double-texting you, asking you what you’re up to, hinting at wanting to get together, etc. 

She would respond pretty much right away to your texts, and/or apologize and make up for it if she made you wait. 

And as soon as you send that double text… you immediately look like a needy bitch. And even if you still had a chance with her, you have just greatly diminished it. 

I hate to be the bearer of bad news. But such is life! It is the truth. 

If she doesn’t respond to your text, go out and meet some new women who will! Simple fix! 

Tip #3 – Don’t Text Nudes, Dick Pics, Or Masturbation Vids… Ever

Tip #3 – Don’t Text Nudes, Dick Pics, Or Masturbation Vids… Ever

I have really tested this one out. I’ve definitely been known to send an adult-rated photo or two of myself to women, even in the more recent past. 

I have experimented with it, and I have put a lot of time into trying to decide whether or not there is really any reason for a man to do this. 

And I have finally arrived at what I consider to be the best piece of advice. 

Just never do it.  

There is one exception to this rule. 

If you are in a long-term relationship with a woman whom you actually trust, who has earned your trust, who is also begging you for nudies… then by all means… text her some nudes once in a while!

But it is so risky to send nude pictures to women you don’t trust. 

What if her younger sister or daughter picks up the phone first? This is literally a nightmare waiting to happen. There is just too much that can go wrong! 

It basically verges on just being totally irresponsible.

And beyond that, it also makes you look hella desperate, horny, and like you don’t have a real girl to bang… so you’re sending nudes hoping to stir something up. 

This is super unattractive. I have watched so many men ruin their chances with hot women this way. 

When you send pics or videos like this to a woman, most likely, she is going to laugh at it, automatically assume you are trying to get sex, and then judge you for being a little bitch and not coming out and seducing her like a man. 

Do you know what would be better? Actually take a hot girl home, bang like hell, have a great time, and ignore the other girl’s texts for a while.

Believe it or not, this will absolutely give you a 1000% better chance with a woman than sending her a dick pick or a vid of you jerkin it!

Straight facts.  

Tip #4 – Do Not Be The Only One To Text First

Tip #4 – Do Not Be The Only One To Text First

This is another one I used to be really bad about. 

I used to want to make the girls I texted feel good, so I would text them first nearly all the time. 

Well, newsflash guys… this doesn’t work. 

It actually has the opposite effect. 

The truth of the matter is this. 

Women want a man who is on a mission. 

They do not want men to make her the mission!

And when you always text her first… that’s how she feels. 

This makes you seem not only boring, but it also shows her that you are chasing her. That takes all of the fun out of it for her. 


Because it shows her that you’re easy! 

And that doesn’t validate her! 

She wants a high value man… a man in high-demand, who is difficult to get. 

Why? Because when she does get you, it will be a huge boost to her ego. 

My rule for this tip is this… I never text first more than twice in a row. 

If she doesn’t text me first the second or third time, I guess we’re not ever talking again… because I refuse to start the conversation three times. 

Quite honestly, there are all kinds of women out there who will text me first just as often as I text them first… and I would rather give these women my time and attention, because I think they deserve it more. 

If she wants a chance at me, she needs to put in some work! 

Tip #5 – Never Solidify Sexual Plans With Her Over Text

Tip #5 – Never Solidify Sexual Plans With Her Over Text

This one is tricky. 

And what is even trickier is that girls will basically try to get you to do this… and then, when you DO it, they will quickly lose interest!

When I am talking to a lady, I never come right out and commit to doing anything specific with her sexually

For example… she might say… 

“I’m a big fan of making out! Maybe I could get you to make out with me when you come over?” wink wink…

To such a text, I would tend to reply like this… 

“Maybe! I don’t know, I’m kind of a hard man to seduce.”

Or, she might say…

“You interested in seeing me in my lingerie later? I bought some and I’d like to show you!”

To such a text, I would tend to say something like this… 

“Oh? Bold of you to assume that we’ll be going home together. You seem pretty sure of yourself.” 

I’m telling you guys… sometimes, rarely, committing to plans like this works out alright. 

But 9 times out of 10, as soon as you commit to something like this, it all falls apart.

And this is the reason.

Once she gets you to commit, you have already validated her, and it feels to her like the ‘game’ is over. 

She has already won. She already got you. 

Now she can just cancel, take a hot bath, order Chinese food, and watch some shows! 

Hard truth for you, men… she already got what she really wanted out of you! If she wants that good dick now, she can divert her efforts to a man who hasn’t validated her yet.

Pro Tip: This is why it seems like women tend to go for jerks!

In Fact, I Am So Sure About This That I Rarely Even Commit To Sexy Fun With My Girlfriend Over Text!

I feel like planning ahead really ruins the passion and the little ‘flirting game’ we have going on. 

I enjoy it when women are putting themselves out there for me. I also enjoy teasing them and keeping them at arm’s length for a while. 

They seem to love this as well. It really drives them wild… especially if we have a ton of chemistry and sexual energy already built up!

Books To Help You Level Up Your Dating Game

By Kezia Noble

My favorite all-around dating book for helping men to understand how to interface with women – with plenty of awesome insights that’ll doubtlessly help you with your dating game. 

By John Gottman, Julie Schwartz Gottman, Doug Abrams, and Rachel Carlton Abrams

If you want to learn how to interface with women successfully – both in a dating capacity and in relationships, then this book is a MUST READ. 

By David M. Buss

If you truly want to understand the foundational principles of human mating behavior, this book is an alpha mentality MUST READ. 

By Cindy M. Meston and David M. Buss

This book is a MUST READ for anyone who wants to understand the complex nature of female mating behavior from a scientific and real-life perspective. 

In Conclusion

Hopefully, this post has helped you to understand some of my favorite tips about alpha male texting habits. 

Proper texting technique is very, very important to seduction.

Obviously, every man should develop his own personal style. But I swear by these five tips, and stand behind them! 

I find that when I obey every single one of them, my texting conversations go much, much better!

That’s all I have for this one. 

Go with grace, my friends, and never give up your power. 

Catch you on the next one!

Joshua K. Sigafus