What 50 blog posts have taught me about how to be more attractive to women.
As I begin this post, I reflect back on the previous 3-ish months that I’ve been blogging.
In preparing to create this article… my 50th blog post, I’ve been seriously debating about what I should talk about.
My goal with this site is to help men win with women. That is really the entire goal of the alpha male journey, and why I even started all of this to begin with.
I wanted to help men succeed in their relationships with women. And now, 50 blogs later, I’m well on my way to making that vision a reality.
But what has been my takeaway? What have I learned in researching, writing, and publishing 50 blog posts on the topic?
Well, I’ve actually learned a lot.
But more than anything, I’ve learned that there is a lot of misinformation in the world about how to be more attractive to women.
Men often don’t know what to do when it comes to women. To a point, we are mystified and terrified of them.
But perhaps even more importantly… many men are frustrated and stressed out by their inability to achieve the kinds of relationships with women that they would actually like to have.
So today, I’m going to share the 5 most important things I’ve learned about how to be more attractive to women.
Men, hopefully this post will help you to understand some of the core dynamics of the alpha male mindset as it pertains to attraction.
Let’s jump in.
#1 – Attraction Is A Skill, Not Manipulation
Interestingly enough, I’ve talked to a lot of people who have an almost ‘voodoo-like fear’ of pick-up and game.
I’ve even heard people say that pick-up artists are actually master manipulators.
But I disagree with this, completely.
I’m not a pickup artist (though I do study some of the good ones and admire their work). But I do believe in helping men to level-up their skills of attraction.
And I must say, I am surprised by how many men are held back in this because they are afraid that learning more about how to be more attractive to women will somehow cause them to change and not be their own authentic selves anymore.
Well, let’s put this matter to bed.
Learning To Be More Attractive Is Not Manipulation
It is a skill… a skill that every alpha male should pursue.
Does learning how to get better at baseball mean that you are manipulating the coach if he signs you to a major-league contract?
No… it means that, in learning a skill, you have become better at something that is useful, and are now in higher demand because of it.
You are literally… dun dun dunnnn… a higher value man than men who do not possess skills that are at least comparable or equal in value to the skills that you have cultivated and mastered.
And contrary to what many people may intuitively believe… The world is in desperate need of men who understand attraction and how to be more attractive to women.
Women need it more than anyone else! It literally helps everyone.
#2 – If You Never Learn How To Be More Attractive To Women, You Will Likely Never Improve Your Dating Prospects
This is a tough truth for some men to stomach… but it’s true.
Men who wait around, saying that ‘their soulmate will find them,’ or that they are just ‘holding out for the perfect match,’ are not living in reality.
If you want to increase your odds of dating high-value women, you need to not only improve your life and chase excellence… but you need to level up your attraction.
Work out more. Adopt a healthier lifestyle (check out this post about my whole food alpha male diet!). Make more money. Chase excellence. Surround yourself with excellent people. Become a strong, capable leader for your tribe.
Become a high value man with plenty to offer. Practice good hygiene, and level-up your style.
Learn to take your power back from the chaos, and level-up emotionally.
Start doing these things and making progress every day… and you will be amazed at how many more women will become interested in you!
#3 – I Think That The Biggest Challenge Men Face In Our World Is A Lack Of Motivation
When I look around me at the men in the world, it is amazing how many of them do not have a plan, any sort of drive to better themselves, or any sort of determination to become a higher-value human.
In fact… I have even had people get offended by me using the term ‘higher value.’
That is how ‘fragile’ some people are emotionally!!!
This is very troubling to me… because I see this as being directly related to why so many men are so depressed.
When I began the alpha male journey, I was also depressed. I was anxious, sad, lonely, and had a total victim mentality.
But as I grew and learned, I started to learn that I had the ability and the choice to take back my power and make something of myself in life.
Now, I strive to help other men in my community to see this within themselves as well… to see that they can pursue their passion, have a better life, and achieve the types of things they truly want to achieve, as long as they are willing to work hard for it.
But all of this requires motivation. Even I struggle with motivation, on an almost daily basis.
But each and every day, I fight that battle and I win. And so can every other man!
And hopefully, I can find even better ways to help men win this same battle in their own lives.
#4 – If You Really Want To Learn How To Be More Attractive To Women, Learn To Pursue Excellence First, And Level Up Your Attraction-Game Second
This is a hard and fast ironclad rule that I have come to believe as law.
If a man wants to succeed more-often with higher-value women, the first objective is not to go after more high-value women.
The first objective is for him to chase excellence and become a man of true high-value.
He must pursue his destiny, and carve out a true legacy of meaning and purpose in this life.
But as he is doing this, and making that his first priority, he must also level up his skills of attraction.
He should be striving to level up in all of the most crucial alpha male personality traits, establishing himself as an effective leader, and also learning how to talk to women, how to dress well, how to flirt, etc.
This is how to become more attractive to women. It is literally the secret weapon to becoming the kind of man whom women desire and crave!
#5 – Practice Makes Almost Perfect
When I started this blog, I knew quite a bit about the alpha male journey and lifestyle.
I also knew quite a bit about how to succeed with women.
But over the course of these 50 blog posts, I have done a lot of studying, reading, discussing, problem-solving, investigating, practicing, and thinking… and I have come to realize that there is still so much to learn… I have barely scratched the surface.
But I have also seriously leveled-up in my own life.
I have truly succeeded in increasing my value.
I have followed my own personal alpha male code, the Oath of Kings, better than ever. And yet, I continue to push myself, every day, to try to be the best man I can possibly be.
I’ve found the strength and motivation to persevere, and I have succeeded in learning a lot about about how to successfully engage with women in positive and productive ways.
But I am not perfect. And I still have a lot to learn.
And at the end of the day, all of this goes to show that practice really does help you to get better.
50 blog posts later, I have learned so many things that I never dreamed of knowing before I started.
And now, I am just looking forward to the next 50… wondering what kinds of awesome and helpful things I will discover along the way.
This is going to conclude my 50th blog post.
If you are reading this, thank you! I appreciate you more than you realize.
Every click I get on my blog helps to motivate me and keep me going.
And every person who tells me that they learned a little something from my blog… Well, that is an incredible honor, and I am eternally grateful that people believe that my words hold value!
In the meantime, go with grace, gentlemen… and never give up your power.
See you on the next one!
Joshua K. Sigafus