We live in a weird world, ladies and gentlemen.
We live in a world where a lot of people actually get offended when I use the terms alpha male or alpha female.
When I use the term alpha male, people tend to think that I’m talking about being a bully or a tyrant.
Using the term alpha female isn’t quite as taboo.
In fact, a lot of women like to think of themselves as alpha.
They think that being independent enough to live without a man makes them alpha.
See, all of this just points to one fundamental reality.
Most people don’t understand what a true alpha mentality is.
Regardless of whether you’re a man or a woman, the alpha mentality remains the same.
It’s a mentality and a lifestyle wherein you decide to take direct control and responsibility of your own destiny and existence—determining to choose your own path, rather than to continue to just react to the chaos of the world around you.
But a lot of people get this twisted.
Why?
Because they pick up a few ‘alpha sound bites’ from the internet, and then they convince themselves that they’re an expert.
Plus, people love to take credit for being something that makes them look good, even when they don’t have the first clue in hell about what being that thing actually means.
The truth of the matter is that most people don’t understand what it takes to be truly successful in life, relationships, dating, friendships, etc.
And in direct correlation to this, they also fail to understand what a true ‘alpha’ really is.
This is why, for the most part, the biggest percentage of people struggle to reach their goals and create the life they actually want.
It’s also true that people tend not to understand social hierarchies that well, either.
Now, I’m not saying that it’s wrong to misunderstand what it means to be alpha.
I’m not saying that you’re a bad person if you don’t have it all figured out.
None of us are perfect, and I’m a supreme example of this.
And when it comes to being alpha, a lot of people also mistake what it means.
In all fairness, anyone could make this mistake, because there just isn’t a whole lot of good information about it out there.
(Shout out to TheAdultMan.com, who I worked together with to publish the best alpha male guide available for free online. Go check it out.)
But for you, alpha minded men and women, those who read my blog… those who are striving to create your own destiny, increase your attraction, and leave a lasting mark upon the world—it’s vitally important to understand what it looks like when you encounter a fake alpha, and why it matters.
See, we can be empathetic. But when people start claiming to be alpha, while not acting it out in their day-to-day lives, it’s time to call it out for what it is.
So first off, let’s talk about how to identify a fake alpha.
How To Spot And Identify A Fake Alpha
I’m not going to fill this post up with 10 points of fluff to describe this.
Spotting a fake alpha is actually really easy.
Here’s the bottom line.
If the individual in question isn’t actively creating the destiny they want by minding their business, getting their money, pursuing their purpose, and leveling up, mind, body and spirit, every single day, they are absolutely NOT an alpha.
They may be on the journey. They may be learning, and they may even be making progress.
They may be a budding alpha with potential.
But they’re not truly alpha.
To be truly alpha means that you have this basic shit together.
Why?
Because once you actually understand what it means to have an alpha mentality, you understand that not doing these essential things only wastes your time and hinders the creation of your true destiny.
And only a beta would stand for such a thing.
It’s really that simple.
Our behavior tells a powerful story: it tells everyone exactly who we are.
Words are cheap.
Actions and life habits, on the other hand, are the truthmakers… broadcasting to the world who, and what, we truly are.
Why Fake Alphas Are Dangerous
To be really frank with you, fake alphas are dangerous because they’re full of shit, and they don’t know what they’re doing.
Now, being full of shit and not knowing what you’re doing isn’t necessarily the greatest sin.
This alone doesn’t make you a bad person.
But the thing about fake alphas is that not only are they full of shit and clueless, but they believe that what they’re doing is right.
They believe that they’re truly alpha, and that other people should listen to them because of that.
It’s a ‘blind leading the blind’ scenario. And it only results in chaos.
And so, when you get a really misguided, but really confident fake alpha who runs into someone who’s trying to be alpha, but who doesn’t quite know the ropes yet, there’s a possibility that this new budding alpha may actually believe what the fake alpha is saying or advocating—and thus, cluelessness and misdirection are given a chance to proliferate and reproduce.
That’s pretty much it. That’s the problem.
I don’t think I could be much clearer than that.
How To Deal With A Fake Alpha
Dealing with a fake alpha isn’t any different from dealing with any other person.
Always remember that your responsibility is to your own destiny, first and foremost, always.
First, you create this destiny by minding your business, getting your money and pursuing your purpose.
You also create it by putting effort into leveling up your mind, body, and spirit every single day, striving to become the best man or woman in the room.
When you encounter someone who poses some kind of a threat to this by inserting themselves into your sphere and causing chaos, you enact very kind and respectful, yet ironclad boundaries to keep this person’s nonsense from infiltrating your life and fucking things up.
It’s very important that as true alphas, we don’t let bullshit into our perimeter without calling it out, setting up boundaries against it, and telling that person that we’re not interested.
They can stop creating bullshit or pound sand. Those are the only two options we allow.
And of course, as true alphas, we always have the nuclear option at our disposal—walking away.
Walking away from nonsense and chaos is one of the most powerful things you can do as an alpha.
A High Value Circle Is Vitally Important For The Alpha To Maintain
Here’s the thing.
As you become a higher value man or woman, you should only allow other high value men and women into your circle.
Anyone who drags you down, injects bullshit into your life, brings chaos into your sphere, or otherwise undermines your progress must go.
You simply can’t afford to spend time with clowns, posers, or otherwise low-value people.
In fact, in an ideal world, we would always surround ourselves with people who are better than us.
That’s the only environment conducive to true, real growth.
Life Symptoms Of A Fake Alpha
Alright. Let’s wrap this up with a few ‘signs’ that you can look for in a person’s life to determine whether or not they’re truly living with an alpha mentality.
Symptom #1: Is this person content working a low-paying hourly wage job without burning the midnight oil to build better side hustles, opportunities, and/or businesses?
Symptom #2: Is this person in non optimal physical shape, and not taking the initiative to burn the midnight oil to exercise and hit the gym? Are they failing to clean up their diet while still putting junk food shit into their body?
Symptom #3: Is this person operating at a level of drama and bullshit that indicates they aren’t spending quality time leveling up their intellect or social circles? Are they failing to cut drama out of their lives?
Symptom #4: Does this person fail to appear driven to always be the best man or woman in the room, at any given time? Are they content to just fall in line without striving to become better every day?
Symptom #5: Does this person put up with bullshit in their life without setting ironclad boundaries and enforcing them with kindness and respect? Do they fail to utilize straightforward communication and healthy confrontation to straighten out bullshit in their life?
Symptom #6: Does this person seem non-committal, wishy washy, overly emotional, or just generally chaotic in their day-to-day life behavior? Do they never seem to know exactly what they want or what to do?
Symptom #7: Is this person unable to articulate their exact vision, goals, and destination for their future? Has this person failed to put together a plan for how they will achieve high-value status in all the primary sexual value metrics that apply to them?
If you can answer ‘yes’ to any of these questions about the person in-question, there’s a very, very good chance that you’re not dealing with a true alpha.
If this person claims to be ‘alpha,’ they’re most likely a fake who’s full of chaos and bullshit.
And you would probably be best suited to avoid them at all costs, lest they bring that chaos and bullshit into your life as well, cause you headaches, and make you look like a damn fool.
Alright, that’s all I’ve got for this one. Go with grace, my friends, and never give up your power.
Until next time…
Joshua K. Sigafus