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I Am Frustrated With My Life – 5 Steps To Fix The Problem

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I’m no stranger to feeling frustrated with life. 

The words “I am frustrated with my life” have come out of my mouth more times than I can count. 

Of course, nowadays, this type of frustration tends to be much less common—mostly because I’ve spent so much time working on trying to get my life into a better place. 

And for the most part, I’ve developed a pretty bulletproof system for succeeding at this. 

If you want to learn how to stop being so frustrated with life, then this article is for you. 

This is the zero-bullshit guide to helping you overcome such frustration and get your life back on track, using proven alpha-mentality principles. 

Let’s jump into it. 

What Is Frustration In Life?

Frustration in life is basically caused when you detect an energy imbalance in your life and existence. It tends to happen most frequently when we’re actively giving away too much of our power to other people, circumstances, or just the universe in general. defines frustration as “a type of emotional reaction to stress,” which is a pretty accurate definition.

What Causes Frustration In Life?

Usually, frustration is caused by situations, circumstances, or people in life who demand so much of us, in certain ways and capacities, that we get to a point of just being angry about the injustice and unfairness of the deal we’ve made with them (be this deal real or imagined). 

It’s really important to be aware of the ‘deals’ we make in life—not only with ourselves, but also with other people—and even with certain situations that we get involved in. 

When people, situations, things, circumstances, our job, our boss, our spouse, our parents, our children, etc. start to ask or expect so much from us that we perceive the deal as being ‘unfair’ because we don’t see ourselves as getting enough out of it to compensate for what they’re asking for or expecting from us—we often get frustrated. 

This is really the root basis for the vast majority of the frustration we feel in life on a daily basis. It’s a ‘perception’ issue that may or may not be real. But nonetheless, it’s an issue that demands our attention… because whenever our emotions flare up, it’s important that we at least stop and examine the source of the feeling… to figure out if further rational action is indeed required.

How Can I Stop Being Frustrated With My Life? – The 5 Step, Alpha Mentality Answer

1. Understand That You Must Intentionally Vet Your Agreements


Every time you make an agreement in life, it’s important to do a rational analysis of said agreement to determine if it seems fair. If it isn’t ‘fair’ in the sense that you’ll feel good about your end of the agreement, do not enter into it. 

This speaks directly to the 7th vow: 

“I vow to take ownership over my choices, to choose my path intentionally, and to accept my consequences fully.”

2. Audit Existing Agreements For Fairness

Sometimes you may enter into an agreement before you come to understand that it won’t ‘feel good’ to continue to be involved in it. 

Unfortunately, this happens sometimes in life. Sometimes we made agreements that we either didn’t really think about, or that we thought would look ‘different’ from how they ended up being.

In these cases, it’s important to do an audit—and to discern whether a change needs to be made. 

If a change does need to be made, then start figuring out how you can make this happen—and do it. 

The alpha mentality demands that we take our power back from the chaos—and that’s exactly what you’re doing when you return to the negotiating table to re-negotiate a ‘deal’ with someone. 

In fact, this speaks directly to the first vow of the Oath of Kings and Queens:

I vow to reclaim my power from the chaos outside of me.”

Keep in mind that life is filled with unspoken social contracts—and that these may need to be adjusted as well. 

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3. Get Your Life Together

Sometimes you start to feel like a certain agreement is ‘unfair’ because you’re just not framing it correctly in your mind. 

This would technically fall under the realm of ‘an emotional reaction’ to a ‘rational situation.’ 

For example—my mortgage is a pretty fair price because I got a great deal on my house. 

But if my life is a wreck and I don’t have enough money, then I may get frustrated when the mortgage is due, and it may start to feel like it’s a bad deal because I’ve dropped the ball on my money game. 

But in this situation, I need to take a step back and call myself out on my own bullshit. 

It’s not that I’m in a bad deal—it’s that I’ve done a shit job of managing my finances!

In this case, I need to reframe my mindset to understand what’s really going on. 

In this case, what’s actually happening is that I’m getting frustrated by my own failure to manage my resources and meet my responsibilities in life… not because my mortgage is unfair. 

As alpha men and women, it is crucial that we mind our business in life—which means that we must see to all of our important responsibilities so that we can live the best lives possible. 

Living an irresponsible life and irresponsibly managing any of your resources (time, attention, effort, focus, money, feelings, etc.) is bound to lead into frustrating territory.

But as alphas, we must understand that we are the only ones who can change this. And we must take responsibility for it!

4. Reframe The Situation With Gratitude

Sometimes we get frustrated in life because we’re faced with difficult circumstances that we don’t necessarily want to change. 

They’re just challenging situations that we should actually be thankful for.

For example—I may need take time off of work to go to an event at my child’s school. And this may threaten to frustrate me because it causes me to be less productive at work. 

But the truth of the matter is that this is not a bad deal. The truth is that I should be grateful for having the opportunity to spend time with my kids—so I need to reframe this situation with gratitude instead of complaining like a little beta bitch about it. 

If I want to get more done, I need to sacrifice something else.

This speaks to the power of living intentionally.

This speaks directly to the 9th vow of the Oath of Kings and Queens:

“I vow to practice gratitude for every good thing I experience.”

5. Keep Solving Problems And Moving Your Life Forward

Sometimes, it isn’t altogether clear how you should move forward and fix things when your life feels frustrating. 

Sometimes, if you’re saying to yourself…

“I am frustrated with my life and don’t know how to fix it…” 

It’s a symptom of a deeper problem that’ll require a greater, fuller life change than you can accomplish in just one day, month, or even year. 

But here’s the thing. 

When we choose to embark upon the hero’s arc in this life, and to begin pursuing our own alpha journey, we must begin the process of continually adjusting, analyzing, and pivoting in our lives to bring us closer to the destiny and legacy we desire, and further away from the chaos of reactionary thinking. 

Do you know what kind of destiny you want for yourself?

Start creating it today. The faster you get on this path and start figuring out the problems—the sooner you’ll start to move past some of this deep-set frustration that you’re experiencing. 

Final Thoughts

Hopefully, this post has helped to give you some perspective into how the alpha mentality can help us to deal with the issue of saying:

I am frustrated with my life. 

At the end of the day, I want to give you hope. 

You have the power to radically transform your life. You just need to get started on the alpha journey. 

You can do it. 

My life used to be incredibly frustrating. But today, I have more power over my own existence than I’ve ever had—and that power just continues to grow day by day as I move forward in walking the path to becoming truly alpha

You can do it too. 

Go with grace my friends, and never give up your power. 

Brick by brick, the castle is built. 

See you on the next one…

Joshua K. Sigafus