This post is for the ladies and the gentlemen.
Today, you are going to learn how to improve your dating life by rising above your challenges.
This is a really important one. Because when you are going through the process of becoming a higher value man or woman, in an attempt to improve your dating life, you are going to face pretty big challenges.
And the reason for this is, first of all, because life is just full of challenges to begin with.
But secondly, whenever you try to bring order to chaos, you’re going to go through stages of difficulty, and you’re going to go through challenges as you try to bring order to a life that was characterized by chaos, entropy, and disorder.
Alright, let’s jump into it.
Why Rising Above Your Challenges Is An Important Thing To Do In Life
Learning to rise above your challenges in life is part and parcel to the whole game of increasing our desirability on the sexual marketplace.
We need to embrace more order in our lives.
Far too many people have too much chaos, and chaos breeds disarray.
Make no mistake—chaos can be really fun. So sometimes we look at someone’s chaotic life, and we think “oh, that would be a fun person to date.”
But this is the problem with chaos. It works against security.
And it also works against consistency and stability.
And despite how lame it may sound on paper, these are all attributes that all humans need to thrive.
So what we don’t want to do is be a chaotic human who is trying really hard to have security.
Instead, what we want to be is an orderly, secure, stable human who can then choose to add a bit of chaos to life to spice it up and make it exciting once in a while.
That’s what we want. That’s the ‘magic sauce.’
I’m Going To Tell You A Little Story About Myself
Okay, so I have a thing or two to say about rising above your challenges.
Every single period of my life where I have undergone rapid development and changed my life for the better has been characterized by a progressively larger and more difficult challenge.
For example, back in 2017 when my marriage ended, I pretty much left and started all over with nothing. I had to start over from scratch, and I had no idea what I was doing.
I was not a high-value man. I was not on the alpha journey. I had a lot of issues that I had to figure out. I had a lot of shadow work that I needed to do. I was depressed, I had anxiety, and I didn’t understand dating.
To me, dating felt like a hopeless mess.
And a lot of people go through this. I’m definitely not the only one. A lot of people either come into the dating scene as young people, and they don’t know how to date—and as a result, they have a bad experience.
Or maybe they get married early—because they’re young, charming, and carefree.
But then they get a bit jaded, and life starts to get a bit more complicated.
And then when they get out of that marriage, what happens is that they end up being in a place where coming back into the dating market is rough.
It’s not a good experience. They don’t know what to do, and they feel lost and confused.
And of course, they have a lot more baggage now.
And God knows that I had to sort my baggage out, so I know exactly what that’s like.
Here’s the thing.
Rising above your challenges isn’t easy to do.
But if you want to win on the dating marketplace, you need to understand how vital this concept is.
When my marriage ended, I had two big challenges facing me.
- Re-establishing my life from ground zero
- Paying for my divorce
I’m going to be brutally honest with you.
I could not afford my divorce.
And so, I had this massive challenge. I owed this huge sum of money to my lawyer before they would even touch my case. And for me, there were really only two options.
- I could do what a lot of men do, and roll over and just sign whatever my ex-wife wanted me to sign to get it over with
- Or I could level up my income and take more control over dictating my own terms in the final agreement
I didn’t want to just roll over and sign whatever the other side’s lawyers wanted. And so, what I did was this—I started working double hours.
I had my freelance writing business, but I wasn’t making enough. Through my younger years, I just kind of half-assed it—and I got into the bad habit of just making enough to pay my bills.
I wasn’t trying to build anything big—because I was a low-value man, and I wasn’t thinking about achieving greatness or trying to leave a positive dent in the universe.
So I got to work to make up for lost time, and worked double-time to grow my income.
And guess what? Almost overnight, my income nearly doubled.
I paid down my lawyer, and I got the situation under control.
I rose to the occasion, and I dealt with it.
And I’ve continued to level it up since then. I haven’t slowed down.
I leveled up and rose above that challenge, and defeated it.
And now, my life is better for it.
We Tend To Look At Problems And Panic, When We Should Be Looking For The Opportunities Within Them
When we look at big problems, we tend to see only the scary parts of them.
But here is what I want you to think about today.
When you look at those challenges the right way, they give us a massive opportunity to grow and level up.
They may seem impossible at first. They may seem like a huge headache. It may not feel fair that you need to deal with challenges like this.
But here’s what you have to remember.
Once we surpass that challenge and level-up past it—we have just succeeded in growing and becoming higher-value people.
This not only makes our lives better, but it also increases our attraction on the dating marketplace.
Because we become more effective. And that breeds security instead of chaos. And that is a massive attraction-boosting super power!
Since that big lawyer bill, my income has stayed at that same level.
And best of all, I’ve leveled up so much since then that I don’t even need to work double hours anymore to keep it like that.
I’ve had many other challenges since then—and some of them have been even bigger than the divorce.
But every time I meet a new mountain in my life, I determine within myself to conquer it.
I will not cower in front of it. I will not try to take a shortcut around it.
I see that massive weight as a chance to build my muscles—and I attack it head-on.
This is how we grow. This is how we become the kind of person who has dating partners lined up just to meet us.
And it’s true. My attraction levels only increase. And my dating life just gets better and better as a result.
In a world full of ineffective people who aren’t willing to do the hard work to make themselves awesome, being willing to do the work makes you strong, powerful, and tremendously attractive.
In Conclusion – When We Learn To Rise Above Our Challenges In Life, We Supercharge Our Attraction Levels
No more complaining.
No more bullsh*t.
It’s time to start getting real results in our lives, and leveling up to meet our demons and defeat them.
From now on, when you meet challenges in your life, here’s what I want you to say to yourself.
This only feels like a challenge because I haven’t been good enough to surpass it yet. But now, it’s time to get good enough to crush it and move past it.
This is what we all need to do to level up into the mature alpha mindset that we need to have to win in today’s world.
That’s what I want you to do today, and this fits into your dating life because if you want to be a high-value man or a high-value woman, you need to level up past your challenges. You need to become a high-value partner that other people can find security in, that other people can find positivity in, right?
You need to be able to come into a relationship on equal footing and carry your fair share.
That’s really important. And the higher value we become, the more valuable we get on the dating marketplace.
And that gets people’s attention and makes you a better catch.
It just straight-up makes you more attractive.
All right, that’s all I’ve got for today. Go with grace. My friends. Never, never give up your power.
This is Joshua Sigafus signing off.