This morning, I woke up at three in the morning to go to the gym.
I did this because I want to get in shape (well, get BACK into shape, at least).
I want to get into shape because I’m tired of my body not improving the way it’s supposed to.
But I also want to look good.
I’m gonna be very real with you right now. If we’re not continually leveling up in mind, body, and spirit, we’re never going to improve our attraction.
Becoming More Attractive Is More Than Pickup Lines And Cold Approach
Becoming more attractive isn’t all about generating more confidence, or being just the way you are, either (Though being self-confident and self-fulfilled aren’t necessarily bad things. I just think that some people go a bit overboard on them when their actions don’t match-up).
At the end of the day, being a more attractive man or woman relies very heavily on whether we are getting better or worse in life.
There’s no such thing as staying the same forever.
We are always either getting better, or we are getting worse. Either we are improving ourselves, or we are stagnating and decaying.
As alpha minded men and women, we have an absolute responsibility to ourselves and to our tribe to constantly be improving.
It isn’t easy to always be leveling up. It isn’t easy to look in the mirror every day, and summon up the courage it takes to say “I’m going to better myself today.”
But That’s The Energy That Makes The Big Difference
That’s the energy that spells either success or defeat.
One of the saddest things I’ve ever seen in life is a person who has given up on themselves.
It is so fucking depressing to see someone who has totally given up.
The worst part about it is that I see these types of people all the time. This isn’t an unusual occurrence, to be really honest.
I feel like probably 50% of people fall into this category.
Most people are so obsessed with just being comfortable that they don’t put in that hard work and effort it takes to keep leveling up in life.
That, or they run into hard circumstances that knock them down… and then they never get up again.
It’s fucking sad.
But it happens every day.
This is the real shit. Life is going to knock us down.
Life isn’t always pleasant. Life is not always fun. Life can be very difficult.
But We Owe It To Ourselves And To Our Tribe To Rise Above Those Challenges Every Single Day
We owe it to ourselves to invest in our future… by becoming 1% better today than we were yesterday.
And we owe it to ourselves to repeat that process every day until we die.
A lot of people struggle with progress because it’s easier to sit in your recliner and thumb through the channels, or to play video games, than it is to get up off your butt and move.
It’s a lot easier to just accept the victim mindset than to take responsibility for your own future and destiny.
It’s a lot easier to complain about your boss or your shitty job than to take the initiative on your off time to start that new side hustle.
It’s a lot easier to accept your current lot in life than it is to take risks.
Trust Me, I Know This Because That Used To Be Me
I was that guy who never took a risk.
I was that guy who decided to sit on his ass playing video games, instead of getting up and going to the gym.
I was the guy who always wanted pity, and who wanted to be a victim, rather than taking full responsibility for my own lot in life, and owning my circumstances.
And guess what?
It led to a complete life collapse.
My life imploded around me, like a spaceship being sucked into the most powerful black hole.
And when it did, I realized the depth and severity of my mistake.
I realized that I should have been constantly improving myself. I realized that at the end of the day, there was no one to blame but myself, for my life falling apart.
Today, I Take Full Responsibility For My Life For My Future For My Destiny
I take responsibility for everything that happens to me.
I refuse to give away my power by blaming my problems on someone else.
I refuse to be stagnant and to wither away like an old decrepit man.
I refuse to peak in my 30s and then deteriorate.
From then on, I refused to allow the circumstances of life to beat me down, and not get back up again to try again.
Being Attractive Is Important
Having a healthy dating life is important.
Understanding how to navigate the dating marketplace is important.
You owe it to yourself to learn how to do these things.
- companionship is important.
- Sex is important.
- Being desired is important.
But a lot of people don’t approach it with the right mindset.
A lot of people approach it with a needy, desperate, clingy mindset.
They approach it with the mindset of wanting someone else to do the work for them.
They Want It The Easy Way
They don’t want to work for it.
But listen, everything that’s built with that lazy mindset is fake.
As sure as the day is long, it’s going to fall apart.
It’s like a house of cards with no firm foundation.
It’s going to crumble.
It’s not a matter of ‘if.’ It’s a matter of ‘when.’
So as alpha-minded men and women, we owe it to ourselves to put in the real work it takes to build a strong, capable foundation that’ll support our future growth, happiness, fulfillment, and success.
We owe it to ourselves to put in the extra work every day to better ourselves; mind, body, and spirit.
We owe it to ourselves to mind our business, get our money, and pursue our purpose in life.
We All Want To Leave A Lasting Legacy Of Greatness
And to put it quite simply, we all want to be happy.
We all want to have the satisfaction that comes from knowing that our life was lived well, and that we left nothing on the table when our final moments have passed.
So today, I challenge you with this very important mandate.
I challenge you to stop tolerating stagnation.
I challenge you to do the hard work it takes to level up and improve, even if it’s by a figure of 1%… from now on, until the end of your days.
I promise it’s worthwhile, and that it’s not a waste of your time.
I promise that if you do this, you’re going to radically transform your experience.
For me, this mindset has so radically changed my life that I literally don’t even recognize the man I was five years ago.
- I make more money.
- My dating life is better.
- I’m in better shape.
- My mental space is better.
- I’m spiritually secure.
- I’m fulfilled.
- And I’m happy.
But at the same time, I’ve never been more hungry.
I’ve never been more committed and more determined to make my life a massive success.
And I’ve never been more determined to help others do it as well.
I hope that this post has driven home the importance of trying to become the best man or woman you can possibly be.
I hope that this post has inspired you to rise above your current circumstances and strive to always be 1% better tomorrow than you were today.
It matters. It’s important.
Don’t neglect to put in the work for yourself. You deserve it. And no one else is going to do it for you.
Go with grace, my friends, and never give up your power.
Until next time…
Joshua K. Sigafus