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I’m Newly Single

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Hello ladies and gentlemen. 

This blog format probably seems a bit different than my usual format. 

I’ve decided to change up my blog format a bit.

I’ve decided to start documenting my own life and journey as a man striving to succeed from here on out. 

Yes, this blog will still be focused on the main purpose and mission:

To help you level up your dating game, increase your attraction, and embrace the alpha mentality.

But from here on out, I’m going to teach you through my own experiences, in story-form… talking about my life, and providing lessons as they occur in my own life, to help you learn from my own experience and knowledge from the field.

Not that I’ll never post any more educational posts, guides, or how-tos, of course. 

I’m just going to teach these things through the medium of storytelling as we move into the future, as I talk about my own life experiences. 

I’ve always preferred creating content where I talk about the things I’m going through and the things I’m doing, because I feel like it gives me the best context to teach other people about the things that I care about… 

…dating, human mating behavior, attraction, social hierarchies, intergender dynamics, how to become a higher value man or woman, etc. 

And there’s no better way to start off the documenting process than with an ‘episode one.’ 

And the theme of this episode?

I’m newly single. 

I’m newly single.

My girlfriend and I were in a relationship for almost four years. 

But over the course of that time, we just grew too far apart in the things we wanted, and the way we wanted to live.

The domestic overlap of the relationship was also beginning to affect us both negatively, in my opinion. 

It was ultimately my decision to end it. 

I felt that it was for the best. 

And even though it was really hard to do, sometimes the right thing isn’t always easy. 

My ex-girlfriend is a wonderful person. She’s kind, sweet, loving, and wouldn’t hurt a fly. 

Our breakup wasn’t some kind of crazy circus, where we did and said a whole bunch of dramatic things that we’d later regret…

It was pretty peaceful and common sense. 

And for that, I’m very thankful. 

It was also very sad, because I really fuckin love that woman.

And I absolutely do not regret spending the past 4 years with her.

We just weren’t good for each other anymore.

You can learn more about my feelings about the breakup in this video:

So what now?

Well, as a newly single man, I’m going to continue the process of working on myself. 

I’m minding my business, getting my money, and pursuing my purpose in life with more energy and vigor than ever before.

I’m striving to level up my mind, body, and spirit. 

And I’m striving to become a better man every single day.

To be honest, dating isn’t at the forefront of my mind as a huge goal for my personal life at the moment. 

I’m kind of just taking some time to process the breakup and work on myself a bit.

Sure, before too long I’m going to get back out there and start meeting people again. 

But to be honest, I’m far more interested in getting this content creation thing down so that I can consistently publish YouTube videos, podcasts, and blog posts. 

Lately, the YouTube videos and the podcasts have been far more consistent than the blog posts. 

And this new episodic format is hopefully going to be a solution to that problem. 

I’m also really working on my fitness right now. 

Truth be told, in long-term relationships, we have a tendency to get comfortable and gain what I call ‘happy weight.’

And I definitely have some ‘happy weight’ around the midsection that I’m working on losing. 

I’m also taking this time to really focus on putting my house in order.

After the ex moved out, I was left with quite a bit of empty space, a bit of a post-move-out mess, and a new ‘blank canvas’ to start over with. 

This is a good new beginning. 

I’ve definitely had worse and harder breakups. 

Thankfully, my life experience, wisdom, good friends, and wise mentorship helped me to navigate this one with more common sense and rationality than I’ve ever navigated a breakup with before.

When my marriage ended, I pretty much lost my mind and went into a panic state. 

I really struggled to figure out what to do with the few short-term ‘rebound’ girlfriends and breakups I had after my marriage.

And those relationships generally ended pretty messily.

I will say that I believe I performed better as a man in this relationship than I ever have before. 

But I still made some mistakes, and there are still things that I’ve realized I need to work on in myself. 

I need to continue the pursuit to become a high-value man. 

I’m definitely not all the way there yet. There’s still a long way to go, and a lot to learn.

The good news is that my confidence is high. 

My health is good. I’m in good spirits. My kids are doing great. I have awesome friends. And actually, my family has been coming together more recently than they ever have in the past decade. 

Work is also going really well, and I believe that I’m at the crux of leveling that up into some pretty awesome opportunities on the freelance writing front. 

Long story short, I’m looking forward to the future, while at the same time becoming more and more aware of the heavy burden of what it means to be a strong man in this world.

of the heavy burden of what it means to be a strong man in this world.

I definitely want to perform better in my next relationship than I did in my last one. 

I want to be a better partner. And I want to be a more capable high-value man.

So here’s to moving forward. Here’s to new beginnings, new ideas, leveling up, and always striving to be the best that we can be.

I can do it, and you can do it. 

It’s time to get to work. 

Go with grace, my friends, and never give up your power. 

Until next time… 

Joshua Sigafus