Reasons to quit porn

9 Reasons To Quit Porn Today

Are you wondering if there are reasons to quit porn? 

If so, you aren’t alone. 

(Note: This post is mostly for men. Pornography affects women differently. So for the ladies out there, as you read this post, read it with the thought process of ‘learning how porn can affect men,’ and understand that these principles do not necessarily apply to you… unless they do. In which case, perhaps the advice contained within would be worthwhile for you as well.)

There’s a lot of science out there about pornography use and its effect on our brain. 

But today, I’m going to share my personal experiences with you. 

As a younger man, I used to watch a lot of porn. 

I’m talking 2 to 3 hours per day sometimes. 

I used to get-off to it 4 or more times per day some days. 

And pretty much every day, I would get off to it at least twice.

And it definitely had a negative effect on my sex life. 

In this post, I’m going to share a bit about my own personal story. I’m also going to share with you 9 reasons to quit porn today

Don’t get me wrong. I love watching beautiful women on-screen as much as the next guy. 

In fact, I also have a fond love for nude artwork, and separating porn with nude-art, for me, has been a bit of an adventure.

But when forced to decide between porn or real sex with a real woman, I’ll always choose the real woman. 

Disclaimer: I’m not a doctor, medical professional, or psychologist. My advice is derived from my own life experiences as a man. Take it or leave it. If you choose to take it, use at your own risk. I’ve had good experiences taking this advice. But every man is different, and your experiences may be drastically different. 

Why Should You Care About Porn Use?

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Let me just start out by saying that porn use, in my experience, does affect relationships. But it’s also true that porn, in itself, isn’t an inherently terrible or evil thing.

And there is no shame in enjoying porn. Hell, it’s literally one of the best things ever created from a visual standpoint. But that’s also why it can be unhealthy for men to consume on a regular basis.  

In fact, enjoying porn in moderation isn’t so different from enjoying anything fun in moderation. 

As long as it doesn’t negatively impact your life, it isn’t really a big deal. But here’s the thing: there is a very good chance that porn is affecting your life as a man more than you realize.

And in this post, I’m going to share exactly how porn affected my life to give you a better idea of what to look for.  

When I Was A Younger Man, I Got Pretty Addicted To Pornography

I got married to my now ex-wife at the age of 20. My wife and I started out having a decent sex life. But after the first year or so, it really dwindled down to where, for me, it felt nearly nonexistent. And to her, I think it felt like a chore. 

So not only was I missing out on a lot of the sex I wanted to be having, but I was also missing out on that ‘emotional’ connection with my wife we had once shared having sex. 

And so, I turned to porn to fill that void. I would spend hours looking at women online, masturbating, and ‘busting loads’ to stem my horniness. 

But I also looked to porn for emotional fulfillment. Whenever my wife would say something to hurt my feelings, I would turn to porn to make myself feel better. Whenever I would reach out in an attempt to ‘connect’ with her through sex, only to be either turned down or to have her engage with me in sex that felt like she was just ‘going through the motions,’ I would get depressed and use porn to make myself feel better. 

Every time I felt rejected by my wife (which was pretty much every day, multiple times per day) I would turn to porn to help myself feel better. 

Looking back on it, I had many issues that I should have been working on. Watching porn didn’t solve any of them, and really only made them worse. 

I’m going to cut to the chase and tell you how this affected my life. And I’m going to share it in the form of 9 reasons to quit porn. 

Important Note: I’m not writing this post to shame anyone for watching porn, to say that porn shouldn’t exist, or to say that people who make porn shouldn’t make it. I have ZERO problems with porn as an artistic medium. In fact, I love porn that contains beautiful images of beautiful women… because I love beautiful women—and if it weren’t for these 9 reasons that I’m about to go over, I would definitely watch more of it than I do now. 

It’s also important to understand that there’s a place for porn. I don’t believe that it’s good for a man to watch 3 hours of porn per day. But if a man wants to indulge in 15 minutes of eye candy every couple of weeks, just to get a ‘fix’ of some erotic visuals and to enjoy something exotic for a change… go for it. Porn isn’t shameful and it isn’t a bad thing. 

There are also men who, for one reason or another, may not have a viable means to go out and date real women. And for those men, porn may be an important sexual outlet that gives them at least some means to enjoy beautiful bodies and sexual imagery. I just believe that most men would have better sex lives if they seriously limited their porn use, and didn’t get their brains accustomed to such a bombardment of erotic imagery on a digital screen.

Alright. With that quick disclaimer out of the way, let’s talk about the 9 biggest reasons to quit porn (or to at least seriously limit your porn use) starting today.  

1. Your Erection Strength And Quality Will Suffer

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When my porn use reached its height in my mid twenties (which also happened to be the point where my marital problems were getting their worst), I got to the point where I stopped being able to get or maintain erections with my now ex-wife.

I found it literally impossible to get hard during sex with her. 

This was truly depressing. It took me over a year of hardcore porn use to get to the point, but it happened. It also happened with other women I tried to date after my ex and I split up. 

Of course, there were a few different factors at play. We were 6ish years into our marriage, and boredom was creeping in. Our relationship also wasn’t so good, and I’m sure that played a part as well.

My confidence levels were also in the tank, so that didn’t help. But I also know for a fact that my porn use played a big role in it.

It wasn’t until I did a total brain ‘reset’ and abstained from sex, porn, and masturbation for about 60 days straight to ‘reprogram’ myself that I saw positive results. And to be honest, even to this day, I still notice that my sexual performance only continues to increase. 

I believe that I’m still working to undo the damage that years of hardcore porn use did to my brain. Sex continues to get better. And the less porn I watch, the more I enjoy my sex life with real women. It just is what it is.  

2. You’ll Stop Getting Turned On By Real Women

When you’re watching porn, a lot of the women are ‘picture perfect.’ They are beautiful airbrushed models who spend their days staying in tip-top shape to get those high-paying porn roles. 

As a result, at the height of my porn use, I struggled to find real women sexy or attractive. Yes, I craved sex with real women. But I struggled to get hard, stay hard, and create that ‘lustful’ feeling I longed for during sex. 

To put it quite simply: after bombarding my brain with millions of images of different women, real women just seemed ‘boring.’ 

This isn’t good. And it’s one of the main reasons to quit porn! When you stop watching porn, and real women become the main focus of your lust, you develop a real appreciation of natural human beauty… and you start to crave it. 

Of course, porn images are beautiful. But our brains didn’t evolve to handle so many different images all in such a short span of time. We just ‘burn out’ when we watch that much of it. 

3. Your Drive To Meet And Engage With Real Women Diminishes

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Once again, keep in mind that I’m not a ‘porn/brain’ scientist. There are a lot of people who know a lot more about the effects of porn on the brain than I do. 

But I can share my personal experiences with you. And I can tell you without a shadow of a doubt that when I stopped watching so much porn, my drive to go out and meet real women increased significantly. 

Why?

Because I wasn’t wasting my masculine sexual energy on a computer screen anymore. Instead of jerking off and wasting that sexual energy, I was letting it build-up. This increased my desire to engage with real women. It got me off of my butt, and out into the real world. 

I starting going to more parties. I started getting bolder in approaching women and asking them out. 

As men, we have a psychological drive to mate with women and spread our seed. This is how it is. And if we shoot all of our loads to a woman on a screen, our body thinks that we have successfully achieved our objective for the day. 

So we are just less motivated to try. This is partly due to the refractory period, and partly due to a number of other complex things. 

Long story short: cutting porn use boosted my drive to interact and win with real women. And trust me… real women are so much better than women in porn. (No offense to the beautiful ladies and gentlemen who create awesome porn. They’re awesome too. I just really believe that human-to-human interaction is the number-one way to go.)

4. You’re Less Likely To Take Risks To Get Laid

When we expel all of our masculine sexual energy jerking off to porn, we lose some of that dangerous ‘edge’ that makes us naturally masculine. 

In a sense, we become ‘soft, domesticated housecats’ instead of ‘ferocious, savage, animalistic lions.’ 

See the difference? 

I know from experience that watching porn on a regular basis lowers my threshold for risk-taking. If I just jerked off to porn earlier that day, I am much less likely to walk up to that beautiful woman on the street and engage with her. I’m much more likely to just smile and nod to that attractive cashier than to flirt with her and ask for her number. 

It just creates this ‘apathetic’ fog around the brain that makes us lazy when it comes to approaching women. 

Once again, this may not be the case for all men. But I encourage you to take note and be self-aware. I have a feeling that if you do, you’ll realize that there’s truth to what I’m saying. 

5. You Miss Out On The Huge Confidence Boost That Comes From Having Quality Sexual Relationships With Real Women

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Getting-off to porn pales in comparison to the powerful surge of confidence you feel when you get off with a real woman (at least, in my opinion, it does). Once again, there’s nothing shameful about porn. What’s not to like about it, right?

But here’s the issue. As primal creatures, we have evolved to pursue mating opportunities. And to a great degree, this is our natural purpose as men. 

We have adapted to fulfill one vital function according to nature—to have as much sex with as many different females as possible, in the hopes of propagating our genetic lineage and creating offspring, thereby securing our lineage and ensuring that our blood line lives-on into the next generation. 

Evolutionarily speaking, this is what makes us successful. 

So what happens when we shoot our loads to naked women on a computer screen?

Well, this is time, effort, and energy not being spent pursuing our natural purpose. 

But it actually goes deeper than this.

Our Evolutionary Heritage Has Shaped Our Sexual Appetite For A Reason  

You see, the point isn’t necessarily to create as many children as possible. In fact, the point isn’t even to fulfill our ‘natural’ evolutionary purpose. 

The point is that we have evolved to seek out and enjoy sex with women because doing so was such a vitally important part of our survival, and because men who pursued it were more likely to be more sexually successful… which meant that they were more likely to create offspring and pass those adaptations on to their ancestors (us). 

We are hardwired to love it—which drives us to do it—which increases our odds of survival. We evolved like this for a reason—because our evolutionary family tree consists of a long, unbroken line of sexual success stories, all leading up to you. 

You are literally the next in line. Every generation in your family history that came before you succeeded in creating offspring and continuing their genetic line. 

This means that sexual success comes with a wide range of adaptive benefits. 

It’s no secret that a healthy, thriving sex life comes with a myriad of health benefits

But even beyond that—it feels awesome to engage in such an intimate experience with a beautiful, high-value woman. Engaging with real women on a sexual level creates an incredible amount of confidence. 

In my experience, there is nothing as exciting, or as awesome, as striking up an engaging conversation with a woman, and then having that conversation evolve into connection, flirting, sexual escalation—and then, ultimately, the culmination of an erotic and intimate experience (or even a relationship) within which we can share the most intimate social construct (sex) with one-another. 

There’s just nothing like it, in the entire world. And porn certainly doesn’t replace it. If anything, to me, porn feels like a very pale and hollow imitation of the real thing. 

Once again, I’m not trying to knock porn actors and actresses. They do a damn good job of making the ‘eye’ candy look good. But biologically and physiologically, it’s just not the same. And as men, we need to keep this in mind.

6. You Miss Out On Genuine Human Connection

Back when I was first figuring out how to engage with women, I started dating this incredible woman to whom I developed a powerful sexual and emotional connection.

We had porn-worthy sex sometimes several times a day, and it was absolutely mind-blowing. Never in my life had I ever connected sexually with another human so powerfully. 

But there were also times when we simply laid in bed together, touching each other, talking, cuddling, hugging… and sharing our deeping thoughts and ideas. 

The level of human connection we both received from this relationship was really off-the-charts as far as I was concerned. And I was struck by the fact that this is what I had always been looking for. 

But in the past, I had always looked to porn for this. I never really thought that I could have so much genuine connection with another human. 

But I was really wrong. And this experience taught me how infinitely valuable human connection really is, and how important it is that we seek it out. 

Porn can never give us the same level of human connection that we can experience through our sexual engagements with real women. 

As men, it is absolutely in our best interest to pursue such connections. 

Trust me. When we turn off the porn, go outside, and start meeting real women, these connections will happen. It’s just a matter of putting effort and work into it. 

For men, that’s truly what it takes. We need to put in the effort and the work to become high-value men. Then, beautiful women will crave connection and engagement with us as well, because they’re looking for high value men to share those things with. 

7. You Gain Increased Vitality And Sexual Energy When You Stop Watching Porn

I’m going to be as real as real gets with this one. 

When I’ve been watching a lot of porn, sex with real women becomes lackluster. My endurance drops. My erections aren’t as hard. The sex doesn’t feel as good. I get tired quickly. I sometimes have trouble getting and staying in the mood. 

It’s like my sexual vitality just plummets. 

And to be honest, I notice this even in short-term scenarios. For example… if I watch a porn video and masturbate early in the morning, and then have sex with a woman in the afternoon or evening… the quality of that sex is almost never as good as the quality of sex is when I just skip the porn and wait to have the real sex with the real woman. 

Better yet, if I go a few days, a week, or two weeks without watching porn… sex becomes just absolutely mind-blowingly awesome. 

At that point, even ‘mediocre, non crazy’ sex is just so awesome. 

It’s like every time I watch porn, I’ve started asking myself this question. 

“Is this porn video worth reducing the quality of the sex you’re going to be having later? Wouldn’t you rather just have AWESOME sex with a real woman later on today?”

Younger guys may not notice this as much as older guys. But as we get a bit older, this becomes more and more pronounced. It also catches up with you as you get older. 

For best results, cut the porn and get it on with a real woman. It just makes everything so much better. 

8. Porn Use Reinforces Sexual Shame In Men 

No, I’m not talking about the shame that comes from what other people think of you. As a general rule, there is a lot of shame and stigma surrounding porn use… but I say f*ck what other people think. 

I’m not saying that we should believe or cave-in to the stigma. I’m also not saying that we should allow ourselves to be sex shamed for watching porn.

I don’t want anyone to feel sexual shame for expressing their sexuality honestly. 

Not watching porn so that we can just avoid the shame is NOT the reason to stop watching porn. 

But still, I DO believe that there is an element to watching porn that DOES strike us as shameful. 

Hear me out. Once again, I’m going to give you an example from my life… so this is my own personal experience. 

When I watch porn, I’m not ashamed of it. I don’t think that porn is shameful, and I don’t care if other people know about it. 

But what I do know is that my role as a natural man is to get out there, increase my value, and mate with as many potential women as possible. 

When I watch porn, I put my body through the ‘pleasure motions,’ but no natural ‘mating’ with real women is taking place. 

And I don’t like how that feels. I also think that, for men who are truly struggling with their dating lives, that feeling may be much worse. 

When I was younger and couldn’t find a date, watching porn was almost humiliating. It was like saying “this is what I wish I could do in real life, except no women like me… so I don’t have the option to do that.” 

It made me feel totally powerless.

Nowadays, my question is different. 

“Would I rather do this in real-life? If so, I should put down the screen, go out into the world, and find a woman to do it with.”

For the most part, I would always rather have a real sexual experience with a real woman than to just watch one on a screen. 

Do you feel the same way? If so, then leveling-up your dating game using the alpha mentality is the place to start. 

When I started thinking with this mentality, my sex life exploded with awesome experiences. I’ve had so many incredible, amazing experiences with beautiful women… all because I grew bold enough to go out and engage with real women in the real world.

9. It’s Highly Addictive – And The More You Watch, The More You Feed The Addiction

Porn is addictive the same way that junk food, alcohol, and cigarettes are addictive. 

Now, this doesn’t mean that everyone who watches porn has a legitimate addiction to it. In fact, most men who watch porn probably aren’t addicted to it. 

But in the same way that we should consume alcohol in moderation, so that it doesn’t hurt our lives or bodies, we should also be careful to consume porn in moderation. 

For men, this is especially important… mostly for the 8 reasons I’ve already listed. 

The simple truth is that porn can be very habit forming. And if we cave in and allow ourselves to make it a habit, it will absolutely hurt our sex lives in the long run. 

I would so much rather see healthy men pursuing sex and relationships with real women. 

Even playing with sex toys and fantasizing doesn’t affect the brain like porn. 

I don’t even necessarily see masturbation as being a problem. 

Need to relieve some pent-up sexual tension? In my experience, using sex toys and masturbating isn’t a bad thing at all. 

Why? 

Because it feels good without deceiving our bodies and minds into thinking that we’re actually mating with real-life women. 

In fact, masturbation comes with many health benefits—and there’s no reason not to engage in it if we feel like it. 

Want to challenge yourself? Try masturbating with only fantasies or sex toys to assist you. Use ZERO eye candy, whatsoever. 

Do that for thirty days instead of your usual porn habit. You’ll be amazed at the difference it makes in your sex life. 

In Conclusion – Are These Good Reasons To Quit Porn?

Hopefully this post has given you a few things to think about. 

At the very least, I hope that you choose to experiment with pushing the ‘stop’ button on porn use in your life. 

Even dialing back porn use by a few hours a week can make a big difference. 

Personally, I have been tapering back my porn use for years, to the point where I barely watch it. And in the coming year, I plan to phase it out of my life altogether. 

Do what is best for you, and remember that our goal is to continue to level up mind, body, and spirit. We want to be healthily masculine men who love our lives and embrace the alpha mentality. 

That’s the goal! 

Go with grace, my friends, and never give up your power. 

Until next time, 

Joshua K. Sigafus

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