Are red pill men angry?
I feel like this is a very fair question, and I’m not surprised when I hear people ask it.
Let me just start off by saying that, contrary to what some people may think, I do not consider myself a member of the Red Pill community.
I have a very limited amount of exposure to this movement, actually.
There are a few YouTubers I follow who are part of this community, and I do have some things in common with them.
I have also learned a lot from what I’ve read and watched.
I know that some people call the Red Pill movement an extremist misogynist movement. I have even heard it called a reactionary movement to women’s rights.
I mean, the Red Pill doesn’t necessarily get a lot of positive press.
To start with, I will also say that there is a lot that I don’t agree with when it comes to some seemingly common Red-Pill ideologies.
But to be really honest, I don’t even know enough about the movement to really claim that I am any sort of expert in it.
And I am definitely not an expert on what it means to be 100% Red Pill, by any stretch of the imagination.
What I am an expert in is male and female relationship dynamics.
Ok, maybe not an expert. But I care a great deal about this. In this way, I am a very passionate and dedicated student of the topic… and the goal of my work is to figure out how men and women can actually have fulfilling relationships together.
I would also say that I am a pretty experienced expert on what it means to follow the Alpha Male Journey… to be the best man that you can possibly be.
So let’s talk about this Red Pill thing. But first, I want to very briefly touch on what exactly my goals are.
What Is My Actual Goal?
My goal is really simple. I want to help men understand how to have productive, happy, fulfilling relationships with women in a way that doesn’t require anyone to stray too far from their natural, evolutionary core programming.
That’s pretty much the crux of what I’m exploring.
Alpha male mentality is something that a lot of people misunderstand.
It isn’t all about power dynamics. It’s not about being the most aggressive man in the pack.
Ironically, it is about being ‘the best man that you can possibly be.’
And it certainly isn’t all about being an asshole to women, despite what women may think when they read some examples of alpha male ideology.
I would absolutely say that my view on alpha male mentality has nothing to do with misogynistic thinking.
I do not view men or women as superior or more deserving of anything.
I actually want men and women to have positive, fulfilling relationships with one-another.
That is a huge goal, and a big part of understanding the true alpha male mindset.
Are Red Pill Men A Misogynist Cult?
I don’t think so.
But then again, I’m not an expert on the Red Pill. So I guess I can’t say for sure.
I do know that men in my generation (and to an extent, the men in the generations before and after me as well) have been hit hard by the changing family dynamics in the western world.
I mean, fuck… I grew up thinking that marriage, the white picket fence, the loving, committed wife, and the family were what it was all about for men.
That was largely due to the messages I received growing up about what men are supposed to do and be.
It is my own fault that I took these messages at face value and ran with them.
Of course, they ended up not being good for me.
I don’t blame this on anyone. I do not harbor some kind of sick, twisted anger toward my ex-wife or ex-girlfriends.
I am the master of my fate. I have a HUGE say in what happens in my life.
I simply chose actions that didn’t lead me to the happiness I thought they would lead me to.
I made a mistake.
And when my marriage fell apart, I needed to hit the reset button.
I had simply chosen the wrong path. And now it was time for a correction.
But this is easier said than done. And I think the red pill is a great example of how men are realizing that traditional family dynamics have very little to offer them.
Are Traditional Western Family Values Failing Men In Our Modern World?
My answer to this question would be a resounding yes.
But that doesn’t mean that there isn’t hope for it, either.
With a few simple adjustments, things could be corrected.
There are a lot of men out there who are confused about how to make relationships work with women.
Part of this is covered in my beliefs about the core, evolutionary sexual programming in men and women.
Men and women do not have the same core sexual programming. Check out this article to learn more about that.
And until men and women decide to embrace this and not look at it as a negative, they are going to continue to face unfulfilling relationships, heartbreak, unsatisfying sexual relationships, and a lot of chaos.
Men who have had their hearts broken, men who have had their wives cheat on them, men who have been taken to the cleaners by family court, men who have paid 100% of the bills for the family through hard work, only to be ‘left’ because their wife/girlfriend ‘fell out of love for them…’ these are some examples of the types of men who have had their ‘hearts broken’ by the lies we continue to believe about romance, sex, and traditional family dynamics.
I mean, you can’t blame some men for being at least a little bit mystified and confused.
Where are they going wrong? What could they have done differently?
I believe, with 10000% of my being, that traditional family values will always fail when you allow for a greater degree of freewill.
In other words… when people are not pressured by society to behave a certain way… they start behaving as nature and evolution have designed them to behave.
I, however, do not see this as a negative. And this is probably the biggest difference between me and the Red Pill men.
I say bring it all down. I say cast aside traditional ideas about relationships. I say let’s return to our evolutionary roots… with an extra dose of modern self-awareness so that we can avoid victimizing each other in the process.
I say bring on free will, but temper it with a thorough understanding of what it means to set our own priorities, so that we can give ourselves meaning and purpose in life.
Some men are very angry about the idea that traditional family dynamics seem to be breaking down.
Some men love very deeply, and feel things very passionately.
And when all of that gets thrown back in their face, it can be very frustrating.
At least the Red Pill movement, even with its faults, is trying to do something about it.
So for that, I applaud them… though I do wish that they would just let go of traditional ideals altogether, and instead… focus on letting men and women be the natural creatures that they have evolved to be.
I realize that some people see it as a misogynist cult.
But I see it as part of a much larger group that is trying to accomplish something.
It is men, trying to figure out how to live in such a way that they can actually find fulfillment and happiness in their dealings with women.
Believe it or not, at the soft center of every angry misogynist, is a man who, at some point, was very hurt by one or more women, who is now taking his anger out on their entire species for the hurt feelings he once endured.
Is hating women the right way to handle the problem?
Is it understandable?
To a point.
Do I think that all Red Pill men are angry?
No, I don’t. But I do feel like there are a lot of misunderstandings about what some Red Pill men… the good ones… are trying to accomplish for men and the human race as a whole.
Oh, and I also do think that some Red Pill men are very angry… just like there are a lot of feminist women who are angry.
But I see alpha men as the solution to this problem… not some kind of retaliation.
Are Men And Women Really That Different?
Yes, they are.
Men and women are more alike than they are different, in the sense that a male human is much more like a female human than he is like a male chimpanzee.
But they are different enough that if you try to lump them both into the same group, you are going to end up with a lot of unfulfilled women, and a lot of very emotionally confused men.
I will live and die on that hill. I believe it 100%.
Let me clarify a few things, though. Whether or not this sets me apart from the Red Pill, or puts me in line with them is irrelevant to me.
What I Believe About How Men And Women Should Interact With Each Other
I am what I am, and I believe what I believe. And honestly, I have done enough work and research on this topic to believe what I believe fully. I am committed to what I believe about the alpha male journey because I think that it is good for not only men, but also women.
I want to see men prioritize their lives with purpose in mind.
I want to see men choosing their own paths, taking power back over their lives, and believing in what they are doing.
I don’t see any reason for a man to treat a woman with disrespect.
I would tell men to stop spending time around women who they don’t respect, and I would tell women the same thing.
Spend your time with high-value people in-general.
I’ve heard women say that Red Pill ideologies make men uncaring.
Well, some men are better at caring than others… that’s for sure.
I would also say that…
- There is no reason for a man to be legitimately caring toward someone unless he has made the act of caring for that specific person a priority.
- Men do not owe it to a woman to care for her just becaus eshe is a woman any more than a woman owes it to a man to care about him just because he is a man.
- Yes, care for one-another in a general way. But that is different than the kind of caring that involves prioritization and self-sacrifice
- Kindness and respect should always exist in a man’s behavior, because those are things he does for himself
- Any belief that teaches for men (or women) to be self-sacrificing as the default is actually very self-destructive… men (and women) should only sacrifice when they absolutely want to, and choose to do so intentionally
- Men and women need to understand that relationships between them, and any overlapping domestic interweavings that arise as a result, should always be treated as rational transactional agreements in which both must ask for what they want, and deliver what they agree to deliver, or expect for the other party to break off the deal… because deals where one or more parties do not meet their end of the agreement are bad deals
- Relationships will only be as good as the amount of rationality that is invested into them… as relationships based on the chaos of feelings are going to result in a lot more seemingly arbitrary pain and misery
- Expectations within relationships outside of those that pertain to specific agreements made between the two parties are not necessarily fair
- Sexual/romantic relationships should consist of two mature, capable, fulfilled, happy, consenting adults who are already happy with their lives, who merely want to add the extra happiness of another human to them
I would also say that any ideology that calls for men to specifically be uncaring is probably not a good ideology.
But I would also say that any ideology that calls for a man to put someone else’s well-being over his own as the default is also not a good ideology either.
I think that men and women need to do what is best for themselves.
Self-prioritization should be the focal point of our lives. This is how we care for ourselves first.
Men and women probably both need to get better at practicing it.
So What Do I Think We Should Do?
Here are some actionable steps that I think men should take to avoid falling into the angry side of male-female relationship challenge.
First, prioritize yourself and work on yourself. Follow the 18 Vows of the Oath Of Kings, which you can find in this article.
I believe that if men dedicate themselves to following these vows, they will be a million times happier, and find much more meaning, purpose, and fulfillment in their lives.
But aside from that, I think that we need to remember that we meet every human where they are, and must be ready to treat each and every relationship according to the unique and complicated social dynamics that surround and entangle it.
There is no 100% foolproof method to getting everything right 100% of the time.
So we must act as rationally as possible, without disengaging our feelings.
We must act strongly and confidently, but with balance and moderation.
We must pursue what we believe in… but not to the detriment of our own health and well-being.
And we must continue to push ourselves, to challenge ourselves and level-up as people… while also being mindful in every moment, to strive to be the best that we can be.
And of course, when we make mistakes, we need to own up to them… accept responsibility for our part, and strive to turn that experience into a lesson that will help us in the future.
In fact, a lot of what I have learned has come from my failures.
I strive to turn every failure into a learning experience, so that I can avoid making those same mistakes again in the future.
And of course, a strong, powerful alpha male will always find it within himself to be kind and respectful.
I hope that this article has managed to accurately convey some information that, I think, is desperately needed.
We really need to get some kind of ‘ceasefire’ going between men and women… especially those that hate each other and feel a lot of anger for things that have happened in the past.
That is the only way anyone is going to be able to have any sort of happiness.
We are social creatures. And even though alpha males must learn to be self-sufficient… that does not mean that men should live in isolation.
Pursuing high quality relationships with both men and women, sexual and non-sexual, should be a priority.
Without this, men are missing a big part of what it means to be a human.
And love, sex, and relationships in-general have been proven to have many positive health benefits… as long as you can avoid doing it in an unhealthy way!
But do you know what? Overcoming anger is your responsibility.
If you are an angry man, it is not up to other women to show you that women are not all bad.
It is up to you to take back power over your life and feelings, to live rationally in the here and now, and to let go of those powerful emotions that are causing so many emotional reactions.
And women… the same goes for you and the men who have acted as the catalyst to make you hate all men.
Enough is enough.
Let’s stop the chaos and try to find a greater level of self awareness!
That’s how we push through and make things better.
Thank you for reading this article.
See you on the next one!
Go with grace, my friends… and never give up your power.
Until next time…
Joshua K. Sigafus