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We should Never Stop Learning About Dating And Attraction

We should Never Stop Learning About Dating And Attraction

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I’ve been thinking recently about how important it is to keep leveling up in our dating lives. 

A lot of people think that this process ends when they find a boyfriend or a girlfriend. 

And many more believe that it stops when they get married. 

But NOTHING could be further from the truth. 

The simple fact of the matter was that I was married for 10 years before I ever started to level up my dating life. 

From the outside looking in, it might have looked successful. 

But it wasn’t. 

It was, to put it quite simply, a mess. 

I had no idea what I was doing. 

My wife and I were not happy. 

Our life together was on a slow downward spiral. 

And the most frightening element to it was that, by the time we did break up, I didn’t even see it coming. 


Because I wasn’t leveling up my alpha mentality. I wasn’t leveling up my life, minding my business, getting my money, and pursuing my purpose. 

I wasn’t a strong man focused on leveling up my mind, body, and spirit. 

I was weak. I didn’t understand attraction. I didn’t understand women, mating behavior, or sex. 

And I sure as hell didn’t understand what I was doing wrong. 

Here Is What I Want You To Understand Today—And It Is So, So Important 

dating life as a teen

Here is the secret:

Learning how to level up your attraction isn’t just something you do to get laid and find a boyfriend or girlfriend. It is something you do for yourself, to level up your own life—because it is so vitally important to every aspect of life that if you really want to be successful, you will continue to work on it, every single day, for the rest of your life.

It isn’t just something you learn about to limp yourself into a relationship, and then drop.

You need it forever, brothers and sisters… and you need to keep leveling it up for years and decades to come, even after you’ve entered serious relationships.

This matters. 

The things that I blog about on my blog matter. 

Talking about attraction and mating behavior matters. 

It matters because it affects our lives every single day. 

It doesn’t stop when you get a boyfriend or girlfriend. 

It doesn’t stop when you get married. 

These forces—the forces of attraction, mating behavior, sex, etc. continue to influence your life and your relationship. 

And they will continue to do so, every day, for the rest of your life. 

Nobody escapes it. 

One of my favorite quotes of all time comes from The Office. And it comes from one of my favorite characters on the show, Robert California (played by James Spader). 

“All life is sex. And all sex is competition. And there are no rules to that game.” 

-Robert California – The Office

This quote is so real—but most people don’t understand exactly how real it really is. 

Human mating behavior literally defines nearly every aspect of human life. 

And yet, most humans are not even aware of the most basic principles that govern attraction. 

We are tossed and turned by the power of our emotions, on a vast ocean that we have no knowledge of, on a ship—very, very lost in a sea of humans and natural processes, governed by the natural chemical laws of our brains… that we do not understand

There truly are no rules to this game. We try to put religious, moral, and/or ethical rules into place, to protect our feelings and our investments from the fear of things like infidelity, cheating, broken hearts, betrayal, divorce, etc. 

And yet—these things happen every day. 

There are truly no rules to the game of love. 

There May Not Be Rules—But There Are Skills That You Can Improve On

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Attraction, contrary to popular belief, is absolutely a skill. 

You can learn it. You can level up in it. You can get better at it. 

In fact, if you aren’t working on leveling it up RIGHT NOW… you are falling behind.

And you are going to suffer from not having as much sexual success as the men and women who ARE leveling up in it.

If you learn about attraction and seek to level up that skill, you can get better at succeeding in your sexual relationships. 

This applies not only to dating, but also hookups, relationships, and even marriage. 

So at the end of the day, the moral of the story is this. 

You should never stop learning how to be a more attractive person. 

I’ve been on this journey for over 3 years now. I work hard every day to grow and become better. And yet, I have barely scratched the surface of the knowledge pool—and I have barely even begun to take action on the things I’ve learned. 

There is so much power to be had by learning, understanding, and applying knowledge of human mating behavior to your life. 

So Today, Take My Advice—And Do This

Keep learning. 

Do not stop leveling up your attraction. 

Make this a daily goal, and do not stop chasing it. 

Level up mind, body, and spirit. 

Mind your business, get your money, and pursue your purpose. 

Go with grace, my friends, and never give up your power. 

This is Joshua K. Sigafus… see you on the next one!