In this day and age, it’s becoming more and more important to NOT be a weak man.
I’m going to be honest with you, men. We live in an age where strong men are literally being bred-out of existence.
There are so many factors contributing to the feminization and emasculation of men nowadays, that being a true, strong, masculine man is a rare thing.
That’s not to say that there’s anything wrong with the ‘feminine’ energy.
But as men who desire to be strong men, it is crucial that we ground ourselves in a strong masculine frame.
Our masculine energy must serve as the basis for our strength. Otherwise, we’ll struggle to find our center. We will struggle to find a strong sense of identity as men.
In this post, I’m going to go over 5 crucial steps that every man should take to stop being a weak man.
It’s time to level up, embrace the alpha mentality, and become fully actualized as the masculine creatures we were born to be.
1. Start Taking Responsibility For Yourself
Men, it’s time to stop relying on other people in our lives. We need to make our own way in the world, under our own power.
If you fall on hard times and need to very temporarily rely on someone else, that’s fine.
But for the most part, we need to be standing on our own two feet.
- Have your own place to live
- Provide your own transportation
- Make your own money
- Pay your own bills
- Stop accepting handouts from people
I cannot stress enough how vital this is.
When we accept handouts and help from other people, we give away our power.
Because the borrower is slave to the lender.
It may be really nice of your parents to offer to let you move back in.
But then, they start making ‘rules’ and making decisions that go over your head.
And before you know it, you’re afraid to upset them… because you don’t want to be out on the street.
This is a very literal definition of ‘giving away your power.’
As men, we must be constantly moving toward a state of taking full responsibility for ourselves.
Then, if you wish to continue the alpha journey, you must be ready to step into a position of true leadership, and start taking responsibility for your tribe, as well.
If you can’t totally accomplish this all right away, that’s ok.
Sometimes it takes time.
But the important thing is that we need to be working toward it.
Can’t afford your own place? Stop partying, get a second job, and get that money coming in.
Can’t afford your own transportation? Stop playing so many video games. Get up, start a side hustle, start a second job, do whatever it takes to earn that money and take responsibility for yourself.
The self-respect that you will gain from this, coupled with the confidence that you will feel, will be so freeing. There’s really no way to synthesize that feeling.
As men, we are either free, or we are slaves. Be free. It’s harder work, but the rewards are far, far greater.
Plus, women will absolutely respect you more when you’ve got your sh*t together.
Trust me. It matters.
2. Get Rid Of Your Victim Mentality
Victim mentality is literally running rampant in our world.
People everywhere are blaming their discomfort and problems on everyone else.
It’s understandable. But it’s not a masculine frame of mind.
As strong, masculine men, we don’t want to behave like victims.
We want to behave like kings.
If we don’t like something, we change it.
If someone wrongs us, we straighten it out.
If we have a problem with someone, we figure out a way to fix it.
We don’t bash other people behind their backs.
We don’t talk sh*t without backing it up with action.
We’re strategic and cunning. We’re not whimpering, cowering, or crying about how hard things are.
Don’t get it twisted. This doesn’t mean that men never cry or feel emotions.
Strong men absolutely cry. They just don’t let their emotions get in the way of doing what needs to be done to preserve the safety and well-being of the tribe, and to pursue their greater purpose.
If times are difficult, we become tough as nails… to get done what needs to be done to create a better life for ourselves, our tribes, and our families.
That’s really what it boils down to.
Are we going to be victim-mentality sheep, or are we going to be the chief lion of the pride?
Lions fight to the death. Sheep stand in the corner or run for cover.
That’s the difference.
3. Stop Complaining
I cannot even begin to tell you how much my life changed when I stopped complaining.
I used to complain about everything.
- “My wife left me, and I can’t get over it.”
- “I’m so sad that I don’t live with my kids anymore.”
- “It’s not fair that nobody warned me about the risks of getting married young.”
- “Nobody understands what I’m going through.”
- “Nobody is there for me. When I need someone, I”m always alone…”
… blah, blah, blah.
It’s all complaining. It’s all just another way for men to give up their power and become weaker.
Don’t get me wrong. These things may be valid. I have certainly felt all of these things before. And those feelings were real.
But here’s the real sh*t that I learned on my own alpha journey.
A weak man complains and feels sorry for himself.
A strong man understands that life isn’t fair. So he picks himself up, brushes himself off, figures out what his plan is, and executes.
He doesn’t complain about problems. He fixes problems.
That’s a very important difference.
4. Start Getting Real Money
This is something that I used to really struggle with.
I used to wish that I had more money.
But I didn’t ever change it.
It’s super, super simple.
I didn’t want to do the hard work required to get it.
This is why my freelance writing business stagnated for 6-7 years.
I made decent money. But I could have been doing so much more.
Instead of grinding and sacrificing to build a bigger business or to grow the business I had already started, I became complacent… content with my lot in life.
I was spending my free time pursuing escapism. I was playing video games, hanging out with friends, drinking, partying… doing anything I could to compensate for my lack of purpose and direction in life.
But it wasn’t until after my life fell apart that I realized how vulnerable I was.
And I realized that, as men, we must be creating value in the world if we want to be someone of significance.
So I started creating value. I starting working on this blog, my YouTube channel, and my podcast.
And I also expanded and grew my freelance writing business.
It hasn’t been easy. I certainly engage in less escapism nowadays.
But every year, I make more and more real money.
And this strengthens my position in life.
The bottom line is this.
If you don’t want to be a weak man in this world, you need to be generating wealth, creating value, and working to accomplish a greater purpose.
There is just no other path.
5. Start Chasing Your Purpose
Speaking of purpose… it is incredibly important for every man to figure out what he wants to do in life.
If you haven’t figured out your purpose yet, try to answer this question as specifically as possible.
What problem do you want to help solve in your lifetime?
I think that this question speaks powerfully to our purpose, because it goes beyond the simple ‘what do you want to do’ question to get to the heart of the matter.
Our purpose isn’t defined by what we want to have.
It should be defined by what we wish to contribute.
Weak men focus only on what they want to have… and then, they freeze when the time comes to do the hard work.
Strong men focus on how they can contribute, create value, and leave a lasting legacy of greatness.
The crazy thing is that you’re probably going to end up happier and wealthier if you follow the second path… the path of the strong man.
It’s vital to understand that, as men, we were put here to be effective and to solve problems.
Women evolved to be beautiful… to be admired… to be liked… to be wanted.
Men were put here to be effective, to solve problems, to get results, and to create value.
And that is why having a purpose is so important for men who don’t want to be weak men anymore.
Hopefully, this post has helped you to understand how crucial it is for us to be strong men in this life.
I also hope that you have gained some insight into how to stop being a weak man.
We are all learning and growing. I am constantly working on these things as well.
None of us are perfect.
That’s not the goal.
The goal is to be a better man today than you were yesterday.
If every day, we can manage to do it just 1% better than we did it yesterday… we are all on the path to becoming true warriors and kings.
That’s the real sh*t. That’s what I want in my own life, and that’s what I wish other men would do as well.
Go with grace, my friends, and never give up your power.
Until next time…
Joshua K. Sigafus