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Hunter Gatherers In The Sexual Arena

We’re All Hunter-Gatherers In The Sexual Arena

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This morning, I watched a fascinating YouTube video about a hunter-gatherer tribe that still lives the way they did thousands of years ago.

The video was posted by Fearless & Far, the YouTube channel of a traveler named Mike Corey. You can watch it here. I’ll also embed it below. 

The tribe is called The Hadza Tribe, or Hadzabe. They’re said to be one of the last true hunter gatherer tribes in the world—a remote African tribe of hunter-gatherers who live in the African country of Tanzania. 

Mike Corey visited them, hunted with them, and asked them some interesting questions about their life and beliefs.

One really interesting thing that stuck out to me was their answer to the question, “what’s the most important thing in life?” 

Their answer?


See, these people’s survival and existence relies on their ability to successfully hunt for meat and gather food. 

It was also interesting to note that their answer to the question “what makes you happy?” was “having meat, honey and water.” 

To those of us who live in the first world, especially in the United States, this might seem like a really simple and primitive frame of mind.

But nothing could be further from the truth. 

In many ways, our mentality is exactly the same as our hunter gatherer ancestors, and we share this mindset with our neighbors in Tanzania. 

The scale of the game, the cultural context, and the technology levels are the only things that have changed for us.

We live in a complex society where fundamental needs like food and water are much more easily accessible. 

However, that doesn’t always necessarily mean that they’re free, or easy to obtain; or that survival and resource-gathering are easy challenges.

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In fact, there are even people in the first world, the United States even, who go hungry because they don’t have the resources required to buy food.

There is also a pretty big homeless problem in the United States, which translates to:

There’s a significant number of citizens in the United States who cannot even manage to obtain basic first-world necessities. 

In many ways, life is far easier for us here in the west, with our first-world technology level. 

But in some ways, it is also more complicated. 

We have many creature comforts that we enjoy as a result of modern technology. But sustaining that technology, and paying for it, is another challenge altogether.

But let’s rewind the frame and focus on the hunter gatherer mentality for a minute.

Whether the context is a modern first world metropolis, or a village of nomadic hunter-gatherers on the plains of Africa, the fundamental struggle is still the same. 

You still need resources to survive and thrive. 

And the humans with the greater capability of generating resources are going to be the humans who are not only going to be the highest ranking members of their respective social hierarchies, but they’re also going to be more attractive as mate options. 

Imagine a village full of men and women who live a hunter gatherer lifestyle.

Among the men of such a tribe, one man is likely going to stand out as being the best hunter among them

There’s also going to be a man among them who, for one reason or another, is going to hold a place as the least effective hunter

Barring outliers or fringe situations, it’s easy to see how women adapted to be more attracted to the man who could provide the greatest odds for safety and security for her and her offspring—the man who was most effective at bringing home meat to feed his tribe and family. 

The women who chose these types of men tended to survive and reproduce at higher rates than women who chose the men who weren’t as effective as hunters. Therefore, this trait survived through the evolutionary line. And thus, women today have inherited this adaptive trait from their successful female ancestors.

Watching this fascinating video of this hunter gatherer tribe, and listening to them talking about the importance of meat, honey and water, just reiterated to me the importance placed upon the men and women of any society to generate resources and increase their odds for survival. 

It is also incumbent upon us as men to learn to be high value and effective, so that we have something of value to offer the tribe. 

And thus, it is also incumbent upon women, who can by default offer valuable reproductive faculties to the tribe, to select the men who are going to give them their greatest chances for survival and maximize the genetic potential of their reproductive abilities. 

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And that’s exactly where attraction metrics come from. 

That’s why the traits we think are attractive are the traits we think are attractive

For men, this means building:

  • Wealth
  • Status
  • Power
  • Tribal connections
  • Leadership abilities
  • An athletic body

For women, this means maximizing your:

  • Youth
  • Beauty
  • Fertility cues
  • Fidelity cues
  • Agreeableness

Men with athletic bodies have always been seen as more attractive, for example; because they give off cues that indicate that they’re likely better providers. 


Because for aeons, an athletic body was a powerful indicator of a man’s ability to be a successful hunter, gatherer, and protector. 

This lean, healthy body type gave women vital information they needed to assess how effective he may be when the time came to source food for the family and tribe. 

Women also adapted to look for wealth, social status, power, and tribal connection cues. 


Because men who display strong tendencies in these traits are more likely to have access to greater tribal benefits. 

And of course, women also adapted to look for a man’s willingness to commit to her and share resources with her. 

What good are such resources to her, after all, if the man won’t share them with her and her children?

And so, men also evolved to want to please women, perhaps even to such an extent that it sometimes backfires and becomes a negative self-detriment—such as in the case of white knights, simps, etc. 

At the end of the day, attraction metrics never lie. 

The science of human mating behavior is a solid science, founded upon observations about what humans actually care about in relationships, and what factors play into turning them on and creating real sexual attraction

And in all honesty, it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to see the correlation between survivability and attraction

This is why men in the first-world setting are nothing more than glorified hunter gatherers. 

The hunted animal may be ‘money’ in our culture, because money is the resource that leads to an increased probability for survival in our modern world. 

But that may as well just be another label for ‘meat.’ 

The context may be different, but the form and function remain the same.

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This is why it’s important for men to learn to be effective if they want to be attractive. The better they get at solving problems in the world, creating value, and sourcing resources efficiently, the more likely it’ll be that women will see them for the assets they are. 

And that will manifest itself in sexual attraction. 

That’s all I got for this one. 

Go with grace, my friends, and never give up your power. 

Until next time.

Joshua K. Sigafus