If you’ve ever heard the term ‘alpha male,’ before, you may be wondering what it means.
I recently wrote a post titled Alpha Male | How To Be One, and would absolutely recommend that you check that out as well, because it contains some pretty in-depth information on the topic.
But for now, let’s jump right in.
What exactly does this mean, how is it different from the idea of a beta male, and what kind of mentality does it symbolize?
Let’s get started.
What Defines An Alpha Male?
Dictionary.com defines the term alpha male as follows…
“A male animal having the highest rank in a dominance hierarchy… the most dominant, powerful, or assertive man in a particular group.”
I actually like this definition a lot… and though it may be missing a few things, it is actually pretty on-point.
There are many things that define it, and many different characteristics that separate alpha-male men from betas and omegas.
At the top of this list is self prioritization. An alpha male is, in a sense, an apex predator in his social dominance hierarchies.
He exists at the top of the social ladder by prioritizing himself above everything else, in every situation.
A lot of people may decry this idea as pure selfishness… but people who think of it that way generally don’t understand what I mean by prioritization.
This type of man does not prioritize himself at the top of the spectrum just because he feels like it, or because he finds some ‘detestable pleasure’ in trying to be better than anyone else.
He does so out of a great sense of responsibility, and because this allows him to keep his power within himself.
This is what cultivates a high-value mentality.
What Is The Alpha Male Mentality?
The alpha male mentality is absolutely one of prioritization and raising one’s level of value. In fact, in vow number 7 of the Oath Of Kings, I say this…
Intentionality is one of the main traits that tend to make men higher-value men.
Because a mentality of intentionality dictates that you decide how to act.
This stands in stark contrast to the attitude of the beta male, which sounds more like this…
Your actions are all actually responses and reactions to the things that happen to you.
Because you are in desperate need of other people’s approval.
A powerful, high-value, effective man and leader prioritizes his life, and keeps the chaos of the world from taking his inner power away from him.
How does he do this?
By choosing, each and every day, how he will live… and then having the determination, tenacity, and courage to go follow-through with it.
In this sense, he happens to life and creates order, instead of being controlled by the chaos around him.
What Does Alpha And Beta Male Mean?
There are many different factors that play into this. In fact, if we look at the Cambridge Dictionary Online definition of the term ‘beta male,’ we find this…
“Beta Male: a man who is not as successful or powerful as other men.”
A beta male may be a man without any ‘power’ or very little ‘success’ in his life, but those are not his defining attributes.
They are, in fact, only symptoms of what makes a true beta a beta.
Beta Male Definition
My definition of a beta male can be reduced down to this…
A beta male is a man who allows the chaos of the world and the people around him to dictate his actions, as opposed to dictating his own.
There is a lot more that we could say about this… but in a basic nutshell, this is the core of the issue.
The Beta Male Is ‘Reactive And Dependent’
And so, we come to the place where we realize that the beta male is actually the opposite of the alpha.
- Lives intentionally, while the beta lives reactively
- Practices gratitude, while the beta male complains
- Accepts the fault for his shortcomings and seeks to improve, while the beta male blames other people for his problems in life
- Organizes his priorities and always knows how to act, while beta males tend to be indecisive, reactive, and confused about what they actually want in life
These are all key opposites that separate the two different mentalities. And they are important, because they give us clues into the vital building-blocks of both mindsets.
What Does ‘Alpha’ Symbolize?
Whenever I’m asked what is a real high-value man, I always come back to the idea of the apex predator.
An Apex Predator is literally a predator with no natural predators, who is at the top of the food chain.
And I see the Alpha Male Journey as the journey toward the apex of all of your skills, primary social dominance hierarchies, and status.
But a man does not achieve this status by ‘preying’ on people.
He achieves it by being the best man in the room, working harder, and pursuing mastery in his life.
Alpha Males Are Not Predators… They Are Wise And Cunning Warriors
A lot of people think that a ‘masculine man’ describes a ‘predatory human.’
But I fundamentally disagree with this statement.
There are absolutely ‘predators’ who are also humans in the world… but I would label them as something different than ‘high value.’
Because I also see ‘respect’ and ‘kindness’ as invaluable strengths that every high value male must learn to master.
Yes, high value man must be ready to do battle when the time comes to go to war, and he is not afraid to channel his aggression and strength when the time calls for it… but he is also patient, cunning, and wise enough to avoid such occurrences if they are at all avoidable.
A powerful man knows that the journey to the ‘apex’ is not won through predatory conflict with others, but through inner-conflict, wherein he destroys his weaknesses and builds up new strengths where they once stood.
And so, we see that for men who aspire to be the best man in the room, the war is always with his own weaknesses.
And by taking this into account, he grows more powerful than the other men in the room… because most men are too busy complaining and blaming other people to see the world through this sort of lens.
What Are The Primary Alpha Male Characteristics?
There are many characteristics that true alpha male men might cultivate. But let’s look at a list of some of the best, top examples…
- Kindness and Respect
These are only 10 of the most important alpha male characteristics… but they are also extremely vital.
They also set the tone for what a man should be striving to be.
Alpha Males In Relationships
In relationships, high-status men will make sure that they maintain power over themselves.
They will be loving, kind, and respectful… but they’re also not afraid to put their foot down, even when it comes to setting healthy boundaries with the people they love and care for.
They will always pursue their purpose first, and make relationships with women a healthy addition to their already awesome life.
It is a beta-male mistake to place all of your happiness on your relationships with other people.
This leads to dependence… which leads to you giving away your inner power to the people you are dependent on.
A powerful man is happy enough with himself that he does not need anyone else to feel validated, fulfilled, or valuable.
He finds his core value in himself and in his own journey.
Alpha Male Personality
All humans have slightly different personalities.
These dictate what we like, what we enjoy, what we want to do with our time, our mannerisms, our unique ways of speaking, what interests us, etc.
But even so, there are also certain personality traits that are absolutely fundamental to the high-value male personality.
Our list from above is a perfect example of this.
You cannot, for example, fail to act in accordance with your priorities, and then blame your personality for your problems.
This is not a luxury that effective men will allow themselves.
You must be intentional. You must be wise. You must constantly seek to better yourself.
These are not ‘personality traits’ that strong men compromise on.
They are traits that we seek and strive to perfect, every day.
Because as we master them, we take back our inner power from the chaos around us. Our lives become better, we find a greater sense of purpose, and we become humans of greater value to the world around us.
And all of these things give our lives greater meaning.
Hopefully, this post has helped to shed at least a little bit of light onto the question what does ‘alpha male’ mean?
This is a very important question, and it has been instrumental in framing my own life and journey.
There was once a time when I was a weak, helpless beta. I was sad, depressed, racked by anxiety, and miserable.
But I woke up… and I hope very much that all men will do the same if they haven’t already!
In the meantime, keep following the path. The Alpha Male Journey might not be for everyone… but if you feel that it may be for you, please leave a comment and let me know!
Go with grace, my friends, and never give up your power!
Joshua K. Sigafus!